Transcript of 829. Q&AF: Is It “Too Late” To Start, Taking Constructive Criticism & When Does It Get Easier?

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What is up, guys? It's Andy Purcella, and this is the show for the realist. Say goodbye to the lies, the fitness, and delusions of modern society. And welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today, we have q and a f.

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Alright. What's up, dude? What's going on, man? Dude, I feel like, time's moving quick. We're, like, already halfway through the 1st month of the year.

Bro, I feel like the opposite. I feel like January is, like, dragging on, dude. Really? Yeah. Ain't that so weird?

I mean, is that the whole time's relative thing, man? I don't know. I feel like it's speeding past. Like, we're already almost done with this month. It's crazy.

I don't know, man. I feel the opposite. That went down the wrong, pipe there. They did. Yeah.

Got got in my vocals. Yeah. You gotta be careful with that. I know. Yeah.

I don't got all that practice you got. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Alright. I need you to I need you to school me up a little bit.

Yeah. You know how to do it? I I mean, fuck, dude. Yeah. Can't be an expert at everything.

Listen. Are you good with me after air? And, we could figure something out. I'm sure. Hey.

Did you guys ever find that that new cohost application? Did you guys ever get on that? You said you wanted to learn. I'll teach you. No.

I was just thinking because halfway through the 1st month, January is always an interesting time for a lot of people. And so I got some really awesome questions for you. But they're all kinda just focused on, you know, the more personal side know, because people are battling some issues going halfway through. It's always right around this time, I guess. So Yeah.

I mean, this is the time of the year where everybody says the same shit, bro. I'm gonna this is gonna be the year. I'm gonna change my life. I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do that.

I'm gonna do this. And by the 2nd week in, 3rd week in, which is where we are now, everybody gives the fuck up. Mhmm. Okay? And then they wonder they spend the rest of the year miserable because they weren't able to get their shit together.

They live a life they don't want. They they look the way they don't want. They make the money they don't want, and then they think they just got screwed by the world. No, bro. You screwed yourself.

Yeah.

That's the reality. Halfway through the 1st month. Like, alright. Well, we'll just try next year. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. It's like people who on their diet, you know, they they mess up on Tuesday, and they're like, oh, I'm gonna start again on Monday. Right? And between Tuesday and Monday, they stuff themselves because they're like, oh, I'm gonna start Monday.

Mhmm. And then Monday comes, and they mess up on the next Wednesday. Then they stuff themselves, and then they end up a £100 overweight. Ask me how I know that because I lived that for a long time, dude. And if we could just get people to understand that if we fix your ability to adhere to a program, you can do anything you want.

That's the ultimate problem here. The ultimate problem is you don't know how to do things when you don't feel like doing them. And when you can fix that, you could fix everything. Yeah, man. Well, let's do it then.

Let's get into some some some some real real hard truths that need to be discussed. A lot of people going through some different things. So let's let's get into these questions, guys. Andy question number 1. Andy, I've been working in hospitality for over a decade.

I'm burned out and ready for a change. I've always been interested in graphic design and even took some courses online during the pandemic. But I have no formal experience in the field. At 38, I feel like it's too late to start over, especially with financial pressures. How do I pivot into a completely new career without starting from scratch or risking my stab stability?

Well, look, dude. That's that's a common thing that a lot of people have to deal with over a few different times in their life usually. The first thing I would like to say to you is, are you sure that's what you want to do? Because a lot of times, you know, things look good and shiny and new over here and we're bored with what it is that we're doing and then we jump from something that we're pretty good at to something we don't know anything about and we set ourselves back years. Okay?

So you don't wanna do that. So you wanna make sure that is something that you wanna do. Now, if you're already doing it and you're already taking classes and you're already practicing, a good way to transition from where you are that has stability into a new field that does not have stability yet is to do it a little bit at a time. Okay? Keep your career where it is.

And then on your nights and your weekends and your free time, you start doing little jobs and little projects and little bit, work for hire for different people, getting experience, getting a resume, getting good word-of-mouth recommendations. Okay? And, by the way, getting practice of how to actually service a customer, not just make the design, but how to do so in a way that blows them away and makes them excited and makes them wanna refer you to other people. Because let's face it. If If you can't get referrals from the business that you have, you're probably not very good at what you do.

And if you can't get those referrals, you're gonna have a hard time getting to a place of stability, you know, from where you are now. Yeah. So pivot a little bit at a time, nights, weekends, free time, do these projects. And as the income starts to grow over here, you could start to, reduce your amount over at your career and then eventually make the jump over. Another thing that you should do during this time is you should minimize expenses.

If you need to downsize your apartment or your house, you know, or or your car, things that are quote, unquote luxuries for you right now, And I realize you probably aren't driving a Rolls Royce and, you know, you're probably, well, I'm just driving a reg well, you know what, man? Maybe you gotta get a shit of your car. Maybe you gotta get a shit of your house. How bad do you want this new life? How bad do you want this new career?

And the reality of, you know, most people is they won't take a step back to take 3 or 4 or 10 steps forward. Right? They wanna keep that big car payment. They wanna keep that apartment or that house that's they're comfortable in. And they want it all, but you can't have it all.

So keep the career you have part time over here, practice, get good word-of-mouth, get a good resume, build a good portfolio, slowly switch over. And before you do any of that, lower all the expenses that you have. Yeah. People don't wanna sleep sleep on a piss day match. Yeah, bro.

And that's part of the deal. Part of the deal is you gotta go through that time. You're not gonna be the 1st person in history that's going to get where they want to go without facing the adversity of struggling financially, struggling socially, struggling with balance. Right? We have this problem in society where everybody wants everything, but they don't wanna pay a price for anything.

Okay? And the great things in life, they take steps back to make steps forward. Okay? That's the reality. So we have to understand, dude.

If you really want what you say you want, you're gonna have to make some sacrifices that are actually investments because there is a payoff on the backside. And I think if people reframe that perspective from, oh, I'm making all these sacrifices to, no, I'm making investments because these are all gonna pay off long term. That's a different game. It's easier to get up and go to battle when you know that what you're struggling with right now is gonna have a payoff. And that's the way the world works, dude.

You know, if you own a business, you know, you're gonna push for 3 or 4 years before you get real progress. And then once you get real progress, you're gonna have a ride for 3 or 4 years. And then, you know, you're gonna have to repivot, and you're gonna have to readjust and reacclimate and make a new plan and then push for another 3 years. It's phases, dude. And it's phases in your life too.

Just not in business. It's in your life. If you wanna change, you're gonna have to push and there's gonna be a delayed gratification time frame where you're showing up. You're working hard. You're giving everything you have, but nothing's happening.

And that time can be extremely frustrating. And the reason that most people can't win is because they can't make it through that time of frustration to get to the other side. There's a reason that there's the saying, it's always darkest before the dawn. Okay? Because, dude, when you feel like you're gonna quit and you feel like things aren't gonna work, if you just keep pushing, that's when the things tend to work out.

Another thing too I wanna I wanna bring up because, and you and you hit on this about, you know, using the the spare time to develop yourself. And I and I've actually seen this in play, with you and how you run your companies. So you you tell your employees that all the time. Like, you do you're not gonna get better at the 9 to 5. Like, 9 to 5.

That's right. You know what I'm saying? Because let let let's let's talk. Let's go a little bit more deeper into that. Like, how what's the what's the hang up with that?

Why do people not understand Because that concept? Because people think that their free time is their free time. They think that when I'm off work, I don't have to work. And when bro, honestly, it's such a amateur misunderstanding. It almost fucking pisses me off.

Actually, it does piss me off. I mean, it ruins people, though. No. Dude, a 100%. You only have so much time, bro.

Yeah. You got 24 hours in a day just like everybody else. When you go to work, you're expected to execute on a job. You're not expected to increase your skill set or get a lot of practice reps or take your courses or your read your books. That is the shit you do at home.

Okay? You do that in your free time, quote, unquote, free time. And you could spend your free time, you know, partying with your homies and doing all the shit, but you can't expect your skills to grow if you're not actually actively trying to grow your skills. And guess what? Skills pay the motherfucking bills.

And if you don't have them, you're gonna be broke. That's reality. So you have to decide how important is it to you. Is it important enough for you to skip out on beers with the bros and fucking movie night with, you know, Susie Rotten crotch? You know what I'm saying?

Like, some chick you don't even wanna fucking be with. Yeah. You you know, or spend time around. Is your future worth that? I think it is.

You know what I'm saying? I think you'll think it is too when you're making 10 times the income that you're making now and your life's together and you're you live in a nice house. You've got a nice partner that is actually someone that, you know, is on the level you want. You you got some nice cars. You're doing well.

You're gonna say fuck, dude. I'm glad I did that. But because you can't see it right now, you see it as this big sacrifice. Oh, man. I gotta go hang out with the bros on guys night.

Bro, fuck that. Okay? They're all gonna be broke in fucking 10 years, and you don't wanna be. So your time should be spent improving skill set. Like, dude, I disappeared for 15 years.

Disappeared from social scene for 15 fucking years. You know why? Because I had to get my skill set up. I didn't know how to run a company. So you know what I had to do?

I had to do everything I could to learn how. Right? And that's not just me showing up every day and throwing fucking spaghetti at the wall and hoping some of it sticks, bro. That's me going home, reading books, you know, studying other entrepreneurs, calling other people their own businesses, having meetings, learning things. You know, back when I was doing this, there wasn't like this big quote unquote mentorship online, which by the way is 99% useless anyway because all these motherfuckers haven't done anything.

But there wasn't guys like me or Ed Mylett who have built big ass companies doing things like syndicate where you could get in there. There wasn't people like me doing MFCEO project, which launches in 2 weeks again. Right? That shit didn't exist. There was books, and then there was, you know, who you knew, and how could you have a meeting with them?

How could you get close to them? And, like, dude, I had a bunch of small business owners that I happen to meet and know, and I would do lunch with them or I would fucking try to, you know, be around them as much as possible instead of hanging out with a bunch of dudes who just wanna get fucked up at the bar. And, by the way, I like that. That was fun, but it's way more fun now when I could do whatever the fuck I want. Right.

Right? Right. So you have to understand, dude, that time that you think, you know, is people have this entitlementality, bro. Oh, that's my time. That's my oh, yeah.

Okay. It is. Are you working to get better? Are you are you gonna work to get better so you could provide for your family

Right.

So you could provide for yourself? Or are you gonna fucking sit on your fat ass and fucking watch TV? Right? It is your time, and you get to choose what to do with it. Yeah.

So That's true. Yeah. And you get you get what you put in, dude. It's just what it is. And people don't think that that they have this way of selling them, selling themselves on a story that, like, oh, well, that you know, I'm gonna put in all this work, and I'm gonna do all these things, and I'm gonna do and it's still not gonna work out.

And that's what they sell themselves on so that they can go have the be beers or go fuck off with the guys. You know? And, it's just not true, dude. Last thing I wanna I wanna I wanna hit on with this question too. This this person's 38 years old.

Can we talk about this concept of starting too late? Is it too late? Is there, like, a definite No. It's not too late, bro, but it's too late if you're gonna be doing the way you've been doing it. Mhmm.

Okay? If you're gonna fucking, you know, fuck off and do half ass work and, you know, kind of float and hope that it's gonna work and shit and do what you've done to get to 38 and be unhappy, yeah, it's too late. Okay? If you're gonna change your entire operating system and get discipline and execute and take your time serious and win every motherfucking day and build your skill set, no. It's not too late.

But had you been doing this until you were 38, you'd already be a rich motherfucker. So I know you're not doing it now. So if you approach the new thing like you did the old thing, yeah, it's too late. But it's not too late if you decide to change every way you go about it. Yeah.

I love it, man. Yeah. I love it, guys. Andy, question number 2. Andy, I recently got some feedback at work, that I came across as defensive during a team meeting.

I didn't realize how much criticism bothers me until I started reflecting on it. I want to learn to accept constructive feedback without taking it personally, but it's hard to not feel attacked. How can I shift my mindset and see criticism as an opportunity to grow? Do you wanna get better or not? Do you wanna make more money or not?

Do you wanna have a nice house or not? You wanna have a nice life or not? If you don't, get your little pussy hurt about every time someone says something to you. Pout, cry, don't listen, think you're right, think you know everything, and then, you know, make it a big deal every time someone criticizes you. If you actually want those things, you should be open to critiques and you should be willing to take them and say, okay.

That is true. I need to work on this. I need to improve here, and that will improve and then be thankful for it. Okay? It's a totally polar opposite attitude.

We have people who get their fucking feelings hurt and cry and moan and make excuses and say, oh, well, you know, they're not right. I'm right. Those people end up broke. Okay? People who end up not broke are people who take criticisms and take critiques even if they're directed at a personal level and say, yeah, dude.

Alright. I got that. Yeah. Okay? So the more that you can take critique wise and accept and be happy that you have it, the better you're gonna get.

The less you could take, the worse you're gonna get. And 1 of them pays well, and 1 of them does not. So do you wanna be rich? Do you wanna make money? Do you wanna be successful?

Or do you wanna be a broke little fucking booger? I think you can also is it true? I think that, like, that that the part where you said, is it true, though? Like, is is the criticism true? Yeah.

Well, a lot of time, dude, it just depends. A lot of times, people can't remove their ego out of the way to accept something as truth. Yeah. Right? Fuck.

That's the point. Like, people will be like, oh, that's not fucking true. Yeah. Right. Well, maybe it's not, but is it?

Right. Right? Like, I I don't think you take everybody's criticism. Like, dude, when these morons on the Internet say shit about me, I don't give a fuck. Like, bro, I don't want your life.

I don't wanna look like you. I don't wanna make the money you're making. I don't want your fucking any I don't wanna drive your car. I don't wanna live in your fucking house. So why the fuck do I give a shit what you have to say about me?

Right? But if someone who is successful says, hey. You should work on this. I'm gonna stop and I'm gonna say, and I'm gonna think back. And I'm gonna audit all those situations moving up to this point in time and be like, you know, is that true?

And then kind of work through these different scenarios and say, yeah. I did that there. I did this here. That is something I could work on. That is something I could get better at.

And then and then look at the person and be like, bro, thank you for pointing that out. When you become a mature, you know, man or woman and you're seriously driven to be better, you're going to understand that criticism and coaching is part of the thing that you need to be thankful for. But as you pointed out, you gotta be careful who you take it from. And I wouldn't take it from anybody that doesn't have a life that you fucking want. Mhmm.

Unless it's someone who used to have a life that you want that no longer has it. Because they can tell you how to avoid losing it. It almost makes me think too because, like, on the other hand, you know, you have people that will not tell you what's wrong or not tell you the truth and tell you everything's okay. You have people who will tell you shit. That's not even it, DJ.

You have people that will tell you shit that's not true to try fuck you up. You don't even understand how fucking dirty people are. Fuck. Girls are like that. Girls will fuck You look fine.

Oh, yeah. Yeah. Girls will do that to each other all the time. Yeah. We all know it.

Right. They'll tell they'll tell them, how's this look? Oh, that looks great knowing that it doesn't look good. Yeah. Right.

Now imagine in business when you're competing with a bunch of people. You don't think that happens? So you're gonna have a lot of people that are gonna tell you things that aren't true to get in your head and try to fuck you up. So you gotta be real good about who you listen to and who you don't, and you gotta learn how to tune certain things out. And if they aren't where you wanna be, they don't make the money you wanna make, they don't have the life you wanna live, you shouldn't fucking listen to them.

And and if they do give you a critique, and you're not sure, you should dig in and see, hey. What did this person do? What have they built? Where is their headquarters? Where are their employees?

How what have they done to get to this point where they think they can give me advice? I mean, the reality is, dude, most people have no idea, and they're so comfortable giving advice on fucking anything. Any of you guys who have ever had kids know how much people wanna give advice, on the fucking kids. And then you look at their kids, and their kids are little fucking shitbags. Yep.

Right? You. Yeah. Right. Like, their kids are running around like wild fucking animals, and they're giving you advice.

Right. That's that's the same shit Okay. That happens in business, bro. People are $5 away from being broke, but they're giving you financial advice. They've never run a lemonade stand, but they're telling you how to run your company.

Right? This is the shit that people do. They wanna fucking feel good. They they think they know shit that they don't, And most people are, you know, they're they have an inflated ego. They think they're they're more important than they actually are.

I was gonna ask you that. It's the same thing with that not taking criticism. It sounds like it's boiling down to just being an ego issue. Oh, yeah. Yeah.

Both sides. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, bro, your your ego your ego can be too big to where you ignore good criticism. It could be to beat down to where you take all the criticism, and then you have no direction on where you're going.

So you gotta find a balance in there. You gotta know what you know. You gotta know what you don't know. You gotta know who you should listen to, and you gotta know who you shouldn't listen to. And these are things that you have to figure out.

And if you don't figure them out, you're gonna be confused. And when you're confused, it makes it hard to effectively operate your life and your project of income or business or job or whatever you got going on. Yeah. I love it, man. Well, guys, we got, we got question number 3.

We got 1 more for you. This is it's an interesting question. Let's check this 1 out. Guys, Andy, question number 3. Andy, I'm 27 years old and my question is very simple.

Does it get easier? I understand that it's life. Right? You get the crap beat out of you a few times, but does it get easier? And if it does, then when?

And if it doesn't, how do so many people make it look easy? I appreciate everything you do. No. It doesn't get easier. In fact, it gets harder.

Okay? And I know that's hard for people to understand. But when you start in the beginning, the decisions you make while they have perceived large consequences, what's the worst that could happen? You fuck up your shit and you're back to 0 where you were last week.

Mhmm.

Okay? When you actually are at a higher level, you're making decisions that don't just benefit you or affect you, but you're making decisions that affect everybody. Right now, in my life, if I make a decision in business, there's thousands of people that have to deal with that decision. 20 years ago when I made that same decision, it was 6 people. Right.

Okay? So it's totally different. It does not get quote unquote easier. It just gets different. Alright?

You don't have the same struggles that you had when you have some money as when you didn't have money, but you got different ones. Alright? And like people say, oh, more money, more problems. No. It's more money, different problems.

Okay? Because I don't have to worry about me going out to dinner and paying the bill. Right? Or, like, sweating that, like, fuck, dude. I hope she doesn't order that.

Right. Right? Like, but real thing too sometimes. A 100%. Oh, fuck.

Yeah. Bro, you think I don't remember that? Yeah, bro. I fucking remember being on dates and sweating my balls off hoping that she'd order the fucking steak? I'll just take a water.

Yeah. Yeah, bro. Like, bro, we've all been there. So so we have to get, to an understanding that it's not going to get easier. You have to get stronger.

And that is why the live hard program is so successful. It's why 75 hard is so successful because it takes people who are mentally soft, and it shows them that if they could control their internal dialog, which they can, and they can execute when they don't feel like it, you become in control of almost all the outcomes in your life. Most people can only execute when they feel good. If you could be someone who can execute whether you feel good or whether you feel like shit and you could execute at a high level, that means that the 30% of the time where they feel good and the 66.666% of the time where they feel like shit and they're not executing, you have a 66% advantage over the time that you're executing that they don't, Which means you're doing 2 thirds more work than what they're doing. Okay?

It's fucking math. So you have to train yourself to become someone who is resilient, who has fortitude, who has grit, who could persevere, who could pay attention to their boss voice, not their bitch voice, and can execute against the things that they know are going to move them where they want to go even when they don't feel like it. And if you could do that, it will become, quote, unquote, easier. You will perceive it to be easier. It will not be easier.

You will be stronger. Okay? But that's the only thing you can do because you can't go write a letter to God and say, hey, man. It's pretty fucking hard down here. Take it easy on me.

Yeah. Like, hey. I'd appreciate if you made it easier for me. Right. That doesn't work.

Okay? But what does work is learning how to control the decisions that you make a 100% of the time, which give you control of most of the outcomes in your life. That is what makes it feel easier. Alright? But, no, dude.

If you continue to operate the same way you're operating and you continue to, you know, just hope that it's gonna get easier, it fucking doesn't. It does not get easier. I remember having a conversation with a a a guy who was sort of a mentor to me 1 time, and I met him for lunch, dude. And this guy was a at the time, he was a big fucking deal. And I remember sitting we we we had lunch.

We were sitting at a bar, and we were just talking. And I I looked at him and I said, hey, dude. You know, because at that time in business, every day that the end of day numbers and the performance came in, it I let it affect me in a big way. So, like, I would get my numbers at 10 o'clock at night, and if they were bad, I couldn't fucking sleep. If they were good, I couldn't sleep because they were good.

You're right. Right? Like, so so every day, I was looking at this performance Mhmm. And it was driving me fucking crazy. And I was about 10 years in the business here, and I fucking looked at him and I said, hey, bro.

When does that stop? And he goes, dude, it doesn't stop. He's like, it it he laughed. He laughed at me. He goes, it never stops.

And he's right. It never does stop. And it's never stopped. That was, I don't know, 15 years ago, 16 years ago. It's never stopped.

I still I'm still the same way, but I don't have the emotional ups and downs anymore because I've learned to be confident in my actions, and I know that I'm executing on a daily daily basis. So if I'm executing on a daily basis and I've been doing it long enough to know that that's what produces the results, then I have confidence in my actions that they're going to bear fruit in the direction that I wanna go. Right. And that takes away the uncertainty. That takes away the fear.

That takes away the, you know, the perception of hardness and it just becomes what you do every day. So it's all about controlling your own ability to make decisions, the decisions that you know you need to make, and then allowing yourself to build confidence in the fact that your inputs are going equal outputs and then putting all the inputs in consistently and then understanding that it really doesn't matter what happened today because, what I did today isn't gonna bear fruit for 30, 60, 90 days down the road. Right. Does that make sense? Right.

So so now I know that I'm planting the seeds. I know there's gonna be a harvest. So I'm not fucking freaking the fuck out. It doesn't feel as hard. Does that make sense?

Know you're gonna water. All you can do is what the fuck you can do, bro. Bro. Yeah. And if you can do the things you know you need to do and you could do them every day, eventually, you will be in a place where you understand that those seeds are going to bear fruit.

Okay? You ever heard of the Chinese bamboo tree? Chinese bamboo tree. You plant the fucker in the ground. Okay?

And for 5 years, it stays in the ground. For 5 years, doesn't show any sprouting, doesn't show any signs of life. Now if the farmer goes out and fucking digs up the seed in 3 days because it didn't grow, what's gonna happen? There ain't nothing. Nothing.

It ain't ever gonna grow. Right. Right? So you have to have it has to have water. It has to have care.

It can't be disturbed. And then 5 years later, it grows to a height of 80 feet in, like, 6 weeks. Okay? So that is how your career will work. That is how projects work.

When you plant the seed, you have to water it. You can't disturb it. You have to keep doing making sure you're taking care of it. And eventually, it goes real fast. That's that's how your life's gonna work.

That's how your business is gonna work. It's like, it's just a a masterclass and delayed gratification, and most people can't push through the delay part to ever get to the gratification. They've never they've never been able to learn how it actually works. So if they don't know how it works, you know, when the time feels like it's too long or it's taking too long, they quit and they start over, dude. And this is why most people, you know, they do something for 2, 3, 4 years, and then they switch their careers completely.

And they're like, oh, that wasn't for me. I didn't like it. When, dude, real talk, they were probably on the verge of having a major breakthrough. You're 2 weeks away from it. Correct.

Fuck, man. And so, dude, you have this 2 to 4 year cycle where people work, and then they get frustrated. And then they and then they quit, and they change. Alright? And now they're starting over from 0 again.

So now you've got another 2 to 4 years to learn the craft, put in the work, put in the time, become disciplined, become a and then you get there and you're like, oh, it's not the and then they they start over again. You do that 3 times, that's 12 fucking years. You see what I'm saying? I have the 80 foot fucking bamboo tree by now. 3 of them.

Right. You know what I'm saying? Like, dude, it is a it it is a the instant gratification that we deal with in society is super damaging. Right? People get on the Internet, especially with young people.

They get on the Internet. They could talk to their friends across the world with the click of a button. They can order food. It's there in 10 minutes. They could throw shit in a microwave, and it's it's cooked in 3 minutes.

The everything they wanna do, movies on demand, fucking call it. It it hasn't always been that way. It's not always been that way in culture and life. Like, you were you know, dude, I grew up in a time where you couldn't talk to your friends across the world with a click of a fucking button, bro. Mhmm.

I mean, it wasn't that long ago. Yeah. Okay? You you weren't connected when you left the house. Alright?

There was bunch of cultural differences that you know, there was no Grubhub. There was no instant food. Bro, I remember when they started listen, dude. I can remember when pizza delivery started. It became that Started?

Yes. Because, bro, it wasn't a big thing. And then all of a sudden, dude, you could get a pizza at your house. Yeah. Like, do do people that are young have no idea how much the world's changed in such a short amount of time?

And because the world has changed to all these instant things, people have lost their ability to persevere. They have lost their ability to be patient. They've lost their ability to push through. And because the natural environment that we live in doesn't lend itself to learning patience or learning how to persevere, we have to put ourselves in intentionally hard situations that force us to, experience delayed gratification, which is another thing that live hard does and and 75 hard does. It's a fucking necessary boot camp for people to understand how to develop the qualities that end up making them successful in anything that they do.

Okay? But you can't expect young kids who have never had to exercise patience of any sort to understand patience. Right? And that's a big problem because to become successful, it's going to take patience. That's the 1 thing that hasn't changed.

So everything else has changed. Everything's more convenient. Everything's faster. Everything's instant. But your career and your business didn't change that way.

You still gotta show up way past the time where you're, you know, excited about it, and you've gotta execute for the results to happen. And that's reality, dude. And, unfortunately, you know, most people that are listening to this are between the ages of 18 35. And, most of those people haven't had a life that made them, learn these skills naturally. Okay?

And that's why you have to intentionally do them. That's why we have the book on mental toughness. That's why the live hard program exists. I built it for you guys so that you guys could train yourselves to have these skills and these qualities that are gonna make you successful long term. Last thing I wanna hit on here, maybe this might be for another episode.

You know, but this last piece of the question too, I was just sitting here thinking, like, why do so many people make it look easy? That's the other part too with the social media shit, man, is that you gotta keep in mind, you peep you're seeing what people want you to see. Correct. And there's really when you deal with influencers on social media, bro, like, you gotta understand. When you tell someone, man, this is easy, they're more likely to buy it.

Mhmm. Okay? When you tell someone, hey. Listen, dude. There is no fucking easy way.

This is gonna take everything you fucking have. Do do you think they wanna buy that? Yeah. Go somewhere else. Yeah.

It's hard to fucking sell that. Yeah. Okay? And then on top of it, social media in general is an egotistical platform. Alright?

Now I I understand. We all have to do it. We all have to put ourselves out there. We all have to toot our own horn because if we don't toot our own horn, nobody's gonna toot it for us. So I understand.

We've gotta step out. We've gotta be, you know, a little bold. But at its heart, it's a narcissistic egotistical platform. It's a look at me. Look at me.

Look at me. Right? It is what it is. It's necessary for business at this point in time for most people. Alright.

So I'm not knocking it. I mean, if you're gonna have them look at you, you might as well be a fucking rock star. Show them back. I'm just saying. Right.

Right. But there's a problem with that, especially when it comes to entrepreneurs. Entrepreneurs are competitive people. Entrepreneurs like to tell other entrepreneurs how good they are, and they like to pretend like the hardest things are actually easy for them. And the problem with that is is that you put this out there because you wanna seem like you've got it all figured out, and it's so easy for you, and you have all these natural skills, and you're better than all the other entrepreneurs out there.

But here's the problem, bro. That young kid who's 19, 20, 21, 22, 25, that guy is looking at you, and it's hard as fuck for him. And he's like, fuck. It must be me. It must be me that's messed up.

There you go. Because this is easy and it's and so, like, dude, I've never I've never bought into that. I've always tried to tell people, like, look, dude. This is the hardest thing you're gonna ever do. It's gonna take everything you got.

It's gonna cost you your old life a 100%, all your old friends, all your old relationships, but it's gonna be worth it over time because everything else that comes in your life is gonna serve the vision and the goal of what you're trying to become. So it's a good thing. It's just hard to go through. And because we have so many even real entrepreneurs, we have some good real entrepreneurs that make it seem like they're better than they are. And I know these motherfuckers in real life.

Like, these guys will call me Yeah. And they'll be like, fuck, dude. What do you and they're stressing out. Right? But but you go on the Internet, and I'm talking about the biggest names out there, dude.

And you go on the Internet, and they're like, oh, yeah. Just do this and that and this. This is easy. Blah blah blah. Bro, it's it's not easy.

It's hard as fuck. And we don't do anybody any favors by making it seem easy just to appease our ego so that we can look like we're better than the next guy. You know what makes us look better than the next guy? Winning bigger than the next guy. You know what also makes us look better than the next guy?

Creating as much success as we possibly can. And the way that we create as much success as we possibly can for other people is by telling them the truth about how fucking hard it actually is and then preparing them to go down that road. Okay? Instead of just saying, oh, man. What what's wrong with you?

You can't make you can't make 50 grand a fucking day? Right. You know? Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, you can't you can't do that.

So Yeah. It's not a real it's not a real it it it I don't know. It's I don't know how to say what I'm trying to say. We have a culturally fucked up society because of the environment and the technology that we have available to us to where they have a hard time understanding that things that matter are still very hard and take a lot of time. And that's the biggest handicap that we have with young people.

And so I've always tried, and you can go back and check my receipts. I've always tried to tell people, man. Like, I'm pretty good at what I do. I'm I'm real good at what I do. K?

I'm I'm not gonna sit here and fucking play it down. I'm fucking 1 of the best in the world at what the fuck I do, and it's hard as fuck for me. It's hard as fuck for me. So I know it's hard for you. Okay?

So here's my advice. Get better. Get stronger. Build more skills. Build discipline.

Once you have the ability to have discipline and you can adhere to any plan that is laid out before you, there's nothing you can't do. Okay? So that's my advice on that. I love it, man. Yeah.

I love it, guys. Andy, that's 3. Hell of a way to start on Monday. Yeah, guys. Let's go out there.

Big week this week. Culture's gonna change. Wind is coming back. Let's get out there and kick some ass.

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