Yeah, went from sleeping on the floor, now my jewelry box froze. Fuck up boat, fuck up stove, counted millions in the cold. Bad bitch, booty swole, got her own bankroll, can't fold. That's a no, headshot, case closed.
What is up guys, it's Andy Frisella and you're listening to the show For The Realist. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q&A app. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. DJ, tell them how they can submit their questions.
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All right.
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Yeah. What's up?
What's going on, Doc?
Nothing, man.
It is Memorial Day. A little Memorial Day special for people out there. This is being released, obviously. Yeah. Hell yeah, man. It's a beautiful day.
Sure is. Yeah, sure is a beautiful day on the Friday we're recording this for Monday.
Well, it's our— dude, it's cold outside.
Well, we're betting it's going to be beautiful while they're listening.
We are betting.
Wherever it is.
It's gonna be beautiful.
You're beautiful.
Well, I don't know about the person. That's right.
Not you.
That's right.
DJ, but the rest of us.
Oh no, I'm beautiful inside and out.
Yeah. Big Black and beautiful.
That's right.
Yeah.
I was gonna fuck with you and you're like, something about the show is a little different. I'm like, oh, we're racist.
No, that's for tomorrow.
That's for tomorrow.
Well, half of us are, but it's not the half you think. That's right. That's right.
No man, it's a beautiful day, guys. It's a great day to get better. On this beautiful Memorial Day.
Amen. That's what Memorial Day is about. Yeah. So maybe we recognize the men and women who have sacrificed for us to have the opportunity to get better. And when we do not take advantage of that opportunity, we're actually violating the covenant and the agreement and the duty that Memorial Day is all about.
That's right.
So while you relax today and have a hamburger or a hot dog or whatever it is that you do, remember that your opportunity to get better came with a very serious price for a lot of people. And that's something that we really believe in on this show every day, not just on days like today. So 100%, dude, keep that in mind.
Yeah, 100%. So, um, let's get better.
Yeah, let's do it.
Let's get better, guys. Andy, I got 3 good ones for you. Question number 1: Andy, I am making more money now than I ever thought I would.
Uh, and then your fucking goals are too small. Start there.
Yeah. And it's weird because I still feel broke mentally. I still stress buying things. I still panic checking my bank account. Uh, still think one bad month is going to wipe everything out. Does that ever go away? Um, or do people who grew up without money always carry that fear a little bit?
It. Why do you want that to go away? Why are you so concerned with that going away? You have to understand that that feeling that you have is what is going to secure that you never lose what it is that you're building. Okay. So you have a couple of things here. Number one, if you're already making more money than you ever thought you were going to make, you need to expand your goals. Okay. Because I'm assuming— does it say how old they are?
No.
Okay. I'm assuming you're not old.
Yeah.
Okay. So you need to fucking think way bigger and whatever your money you're making now, you need to realize it's probably not that much money. Okay. What they tell us in school about what a lot of money is, is not a lot of money. All right. When I was in school, they used to tell us, get your degree and you're going to make $60,000 a year. And that was considered a lot of money.
Yeah.
You're doing good.
Yeah. Right.
Yeah.
And back then, okay. Uh, yeah, you could, you could live on that. But the reality is, is that that's not a lot of money. Okay. And $100,000 or $200,000 or $300,000 when you're making 50 sounds like a lot until you start making it and you realize that you're still feel broke. Okay. So whatever it is that you're wanting or whatever you're making now, you need to take that and like 20 times that. Okay, because that's— you have to understand, your money is consistently being devalued over the course of time through inflation, uh, through, you know, the printing of more money. There's all kinds of things that happen naturally that make it so that whatever you make now, when you're 50, it doesn't equal the same, right? If a guy had a million dollars in the year 1990 and he's, he's got a million dollars now, that million dollars is different today than it was then. And you're going to be alive for a long time. So what you think is a lot of money now is not going to be a lot of money in 20, 30 years. You have to understand that.
Yeah.
All right. So you need to take that goal, project it out to when you're 50, 60, 70, 80, and what do you want to live? Okay. And that should be the reflection of the monetary goal that you have now. So it needs to be way bigger.
Yeah.
Secondly, let me tell you something, dude. That coming from nothing and having that fear of losing it all is a fucking gift. That is a gift. You just don't realize it because it causes you anxiety, but it doesn't actually cause you anxiety. It causes you to go hard. It causes you to keep working. It causes you to keep building and thinking bigger and bigger and bigger. And that is the greatest insurance that you're going to have against losing what it is that you have. The most of the people that, that win at one point in their life end up losing because what happens is, is they get comfortable and they stop pressing the gas down, and then everybody else catches up or passes them by. What you're doing right now, if you were to just let off the throttle, is going— that'll go away, bro. Okay, so you have to understand that mentality coming from nothing and being hungry and being scared and being afraid of being broke and having a mentality of, fuck, dude, I need— that is a gift. That's a gift. And you need to remember that and never forget it. A lot of people don't have that.
People who come from money will never have that. They never have it. That is a different kind of hunger. That is a different kind of drive. And that is the insurance that you're going to have that you won't be broke. So the fact that you actually have that, instead of seeing it like it's something that you want to get rid of, you should say, I'm, I'm grateful to have this because I understand it's going to keep me building and moving. Okay. There is no finish line for entrepreneurs. It doesn't exist.
All right.
The closest thing to a finish line for an entrepreneur is building something with enterprise value on the back end, selling it for, you know, millions and millions, maybe billions of dollars. And then being fucking miserable the rest of your life. Because dude, people who are entrepreneur builders, they have to have things to build.
Okay?
If they don't have things to build and create and become, they're fucking miserable. So this lie that is told about making all this money and then sitting on the beach with your fucking Corona, that's going to make you miserable. Okay? You have to understand you are cut from a different cloth than everybody else. Everybody else is cool sitting around. You're not. You were gifted with a drive that other people don't have, and that's not something that you should be trying to get rid of. You have to understand that.
Dude, I don't think I've ever heard you explain it like that. That, that's wild. Like, like the very thing you're trying to get rid of, that, that's actually going to be what—
fucking right, bro. Do you think— why do you think I come in here 7 fucking days a week? Why do you think I flip out over fucking little bitty things?
Yeah.
Okay. Because I'm hyper paranoid about losing because I know what it's like to lose and I've seen other people lose. Okay, so I don't want to fucking lose. So I keep that intent. This is the same reason why when people say shit to me like, congratulations on all the success, I'm like, bro, I'm just fucking starting.
Yeah.
Okay. And they're like, they're like, what do you— oh yeah, right. They think I'm being falsely humble.
Yeah.
They think I'm like, no, dude, you don't understand. That is who the fuck I am. Okay, I am built to fight that battle. I am built to build. I am built to create. I am built to, to become, and I am built to progress down the pipe. And I'm a fucking warrior at it. And if a warrior doesn't have a war, they don't have a purpose. And if you don't have a purpose, you're going to lose and you're going to be miserable your entire life. So you have to understand what you're trying to get rid of is actually the thing that's allowing you to make the more money than you've ever thought you were going to make.
You trying to get rid of it?
Yeah.
Well, let me ask you this then, right? Because so you're in that spot. How do you, like, how do you try to like keep that then when it's like, obviously for you, like, dude, that's unrealistic. You're not gonna lose it all. Like, I don't know.
I've seen people bigger than me lose it all.
Yeah. You know what I'm saying? But it's just not, it's not like a super real fucking concern.
I don't know. It's real enough for me to be worried about it. If it could happen, just like I talk about all the time, what one man can do, another can do.
Yeah.
And what can happen to one man can happen to you. And that's real shit. So there's been people much bigger than me to have fucking lost everything. And I'm very aware of that. Okay.
I don't think it's real for you. Yeah.
Huh?
It's still, it's still, it's still—
What do you think?
Yeah.
You've been around me every day for the last 6 years. You see me fucking off?
No, no.
Like, bro, why do you think I, why do you think I do all the shit that I do? Like, why do you think I live the live hard lifestyle? Like, bro, you know, people think that I'm some sort of fucking like smart person. I'm a fucking idiot, okay? I'm just a guy who is smart enough to learn from his mistakes and tough enough to continue to fucking move down the pipe. That is it. And I've made every motherfucking mistake in the world. So the reason that I go so hard is because I know what I'm not. And while people may look at that, external reality and think, oh man, he's so smart, he's so gifted. Every motherfucking thing that you see was earned through a mistake or pain or frustration or getting my balls kicked in. And I don't like that, okay? So I don't want those things to happen. So I try to keep my shit together, you know? I keep my fucking— my brain tuned. I keep my body tuned. I do the best that I can because, dude, I know that there's other people that are more gifted than me. I'm aware of that.
Okay? Like, I come from the fucking place that y'all come from. You know, that's why I don't have any sympathy when you say like, oh, I come from here, motherfucker. You don't even understand. The people who do the biggest things in life come from those places because they learn how to fucking fight when they were young. They learn how to overcome when they were young. The people who win, they had bad childhoods. They had tough stories. They had things they had to deal with when they were younger, and that's what's created the fucking monster that you see them as now. Okay, so the shit that you all tell yourselves about, oh, well, I come from here, so I can't do that— that's bullshit. Yeah, 100%. Not only is it bullshit, you're failing to acknowledge the gift that you were given to learn how to fight and overcome that other people will never have. So you need to pull your fucking head right out of your ass and understand that if you come from nothing and you don't have anything, you're actually equipped to do much better than the person who was gifted everything.
Yeah, 100%, dude. Oh man, I love it, man. Let's keep moving, dude. I got question number 2 for you, bro. Uh, Andy, I lost about 80 pounds over the last 2 years, uh, and it completely changed how people treat me.
Yeah, I bet it did.
More respect, more attention, people actually listening when I talk now. Honestly, it messed with my head a little bit because it made me realize how differently the world responds to you based on how you carry yourself. Does being successful do the same? Does, did success ever make you look at people or relationships differently in a way that you were not expecting? Does money do the same thing?
Yeah. Okay, look, dude. There's idealism and then there's realism.
Yeah.
Okay, here's the idealism answer. The only thing that matters is in your heart. All that matters is that you're a good person and that you're nice to people.
That's right.
That's all that matters. That's all that matters. All that matters is that, and everybody's the same and everybody's this and everybody's that. That is not true. Is it important to be nice to people? Yes. Does it matter to have strong character? Yes, but how strong is your character if you actually aren't the best that you could be? Okay, how good of a person are you actually if you're not actually trying to put your gifts that were given to you by God into the world? Okay, it's, it's a biblical principle, the Parables of the Talents. You can fucking read about it, dude. Okay, you have an obligation to become the best that you, you can be. And this idea that you could sit around and waste your life and some morally posture yourself as this good person, that's just not real. It's not true. So the idealist people will say shit like, all that matters is that you're a nice person. No, that matters. That's not all that matters. Okay. And the realist answer is everybody's going to judge you based upon how you carry yourself, how you treat people, how you look, what kind of money you make, how your successes— these things fucking matter whether you think it's right or wrong.
It's just reality. Yeah. When you walk into a room and you are fit, it sends a message. It says, I have my shit together. I can control things that other people can't control. I take my life serious. That person automatically gets more respect. That person automatically gets more trust because people know they're not going to fumble the ball on little shit. Okay. So yes, the world treats you massively differently depending on how physically fit you are. Now, when it comes to money, it's the same thing. A lot of that shit comes from, you know, people wanting to get a little piece of it. Okay. They will treat you different. You know, there's a lot of people that will treat you different because they want a little bite of your fucking off your plate. That's not the people I'm talking about. Okay, to be successful, it takes other people that are successful to recognize that you are somewhat successful, and that's where the opportunities come from. Okay, not everybody keeps saying, oh well, your network is your net worth. Not if you're a piece of shit.
That's right.
Okay, it doesn't matter how much you pay, it doesn't matter how— what room you're in, or I gotta get in the right room. If you don't have your shit together and you are a big fat motherfucker and you're not doing things in real life, you're still not gonna get the opportunities no matter how hard you try to impress the other people in the room because they're gonna see you for what you are. You're someone that can't fulfill promises, not even to yourself. You're someone who's not detail-oriented. You're not serious about taking things serious. People don't trust people like that because it's the truth.
Mm-hmm.
If you can't keep promises to yourself, and you can't hold yourself to a high standard, why would any of these other successful people want to do anything business-wise with you? And that is required to get to certain levels. Okay, so yes, your network is your net worth, sort of, as long as you like fit in with those people. And I don't mean be like those people, don't wear the same clothes. I mean hold yourself to a high standard. I mean taking yourself seriously. I mean living what success is supposed to look like. And then what happens is, is these people up the ladder from you, they will recognize this and they'll say, you know what, I'm worth a billion plus dollars. That guy's only doing, you know, $500,000 a year, but look how fucking much he has his shit together. Let me help this dude. Let me do something for this guy. Let me work with this guy because they recognize the effort that is being put in, not because of what you say, but because of how you look and what you're actually doing. And that is real shit.
Yeah.
And that goes for business relationships, that goes for personal relationships, it goes for your friends, it goes for girlfriends, boyfriends, potential mates. Like, dude, here's the one thing I can't understand is like, you see all these fucking dudes out here that don't have their shit together, they're overweight, they don't make any money, and somehow they feel entitled to like the most beautiful women that are like the most desirable. What the fuck? Who the fuck do you think you are, bro? They don't owe you shit. They have assets and they're looking to have a match with someone who also— and your job as a fucking man is to be a provider and a protector. And if you're a sloppy idiot that plays video games all day and doesn't make any money, doesn't have your shit together, dude, you're not gonna— you're gonna get what you are. And really, that's, that's the bottom line, bro. That's the bottom line. You are going to get from the world what you are. That's it. And you've got to build that first. So does it matter? Yeah, it doesn't matter a little either. It's like fucking everything, dude. Now, I'm not saying you can't be marginally successful being out of shape.
I was, dude.
I was about to like—
okay, when I was— when I was— when I was—
I don't know that, dude. Most people do not know you were— you were—
you were 350 pounds. You were awesome. When you hear me fucking talk about— when you hear me say, hey, fat fuck, uh, understand I could say that because I know what the fuck it's like. I know what it's like to not go to a pool party for 10 fucking years because I'm embarrassed to take my shirt off. I know what it's like to wear the same outfit every motherfucking day because I thought that it was like fooling everybody into looking that I was slimmer than it was. I know what it's like to hate going shopping for clothes. I know what it's like to tug on my clothes all the time because I'm fucking fat. I know what it's like. That's why I know the body positivity movement's all bullshit. And now you all know it's bullshit too, because here's the reality. All those people preaching it 2 years ago, I took Ozempic and they've lost 200 pounds. So if they were really fucking happy with who the fuck they are, then why did they lose 200 fucking pounds?
That's right.
Okay. They're all full of shit. Okay. You could convince yourself all you want. You could say, oh, it's not that bad. It's that— that's you negotiating with yourself. That's you telling yourself lies. And that is the exact reason why people who are ahead of the— ahead on the food chain don't want to work with you because you believe your own lies.
Oh, that's the worst part. That's the worst part. Most people don't know that. I remember, I think we were in California doing that talk.
You remember that guy that stood up and, you know, he fucking stands up and he goes, he goes, he's at least 350. At least, at least, yeah, at least I would say I'm giving him some fucking credit. Yeah, he stands up and he's like, yo, man, I'm, I'm the, you know, I'm just like you, dude. I got the same mentality and this and that. I'm killing it, you know. And I looked at him and I'm like, okay, there's thousands. And I said this, I said, there's thousands of people in this room. Do you really want me to address that right now?
Yeah, yeah.
I said, well, you're fucking full of shit. You're fucking 380 pounds, bro. You ain't nothing like me. You might think you are, but you're fucking not. You might want to be, but you're fucking not because you have not fucking earned it. That is the truth. And people say, well, no one's better than anybody else. That is another fucking lie. Okay. There are people that are better. That's reality, dude. Okay. And we can lie to ourselves and say, oh, well, you know, and we can argue whether it's right or wrong, but that's not what we're talking about. We're talking about what is and isn't. And what is, is that people will treat you entirely different based upon your physical appearance, based upon how successful you are, based upon all this other shit. When your mom told you when you were fucking 9 years old that all that matters on the inside, that's a lie. That's a lie. How'd that work out for you, bro? Did you— did all the girls appreciate that? How'd that work out for you? I'm not saying it doesn't matter. I'm saying there's other things that matter too, as well.
Yeah.
So make no mistake, being a good person is the fundamental foundation of all of this shit, because you could be fit, you can make money, and you could be a shithead and you still won't get ahead. Okay. And there's— that's another common belief. That's total bullshit. All these guys at the top, they're all a bunch of fucking blah, blah, blah. That's just lies that broke people say about these people. Okay. The most successful people I know are also the best people I know. That's the truth.
Like, just good.
They're good people. They do the right thing. You can't have 500, 1,000, 2,000, 10,000 people that want to follow you or work for you when you're a fucking piece of shit. It won't work. Okay, so yes, your mom was correct. Being a good person is the fundamental fucking foundation for all of it. But there's a lot more that matters than just that. That's not going to get you where you want to go. You got to have— be the whole package. So do people treat you different? Fuckin' A. Way different. It's not even close. It's not even in the same ballpark. It is literally alpha and omega difference, okay? It's A and Z. It's life and death. It's that much different. It's polar fucking opposite, okay? And I know because I lived it, all right? So when you hear me say this shit, yeah, understand, like, when I was fat, nobody was fucking wanting to work with me. Nobody was taking me seriously. And I used to get pissed Until one day I realized they were right and I fixed it.
Yeah. And like, for context, you were, you were, you were pretty like, you were doing okay even when you were big though, right? Or to that point, right?
With $100 million business.
Yeah. That's crazy.
So I'm just saying, but the rest of my life was fucked up. I wasn't a good leader. I wasn't. I was, dude, like, look, dude, whatever it is you're doing right now can only be amplified by those things. And there will come a ceiling that you get to unless you're just absurdly family wealthy and it doesn't matter. Okay. Like you take a guy like Pritzker, who's the fucking— yes, the governor of Illinois. Okay.
He's blood money.
He's 400 pounds. Okay. I think he's lost a little weight, which I give him credit for. I'm not a political fan of him at all. I, you know, I think he has lost a little bit of weight. Good for him. But he could not have gotten that position unless he would have had that family backing. It's not based around who he actually is. It's based around what he brings to the table. And he brings enough leverage to the table monetarily that it got him far. It got him pretty far. But guess what? That ain't you. It ain't never going to be you. So we can argue about what's right or wrong or what is or isn't, or we can just address the reality and the bottom line. Of what it's going to take for you. What it's going to take for you, just like what it's taken for me, is to take every motherfucking detail seriously. Every single one. You are not good enough to beat these other people at half your game. You're just not. I'm fucking not. And I'll beat the fuck out of you. Okay. In business.
That's right.
You get what I'm saying? Right?
No, it's real. So, yeah, it's like, dude, it's a thing that like nobody really just wants to admit it to you. Like, I'm speaking to the person listening. Like, you treat people differently. You know you do. You know you do. Just from how they look, how they— like, you treat them differently. But nobody wants to admit, right? Like, nobody wants to admit that because it doesn't sound nice.
That's because they're idealists.
Yeah.
This show is called Real AF. It's not called Ideal AF. This is the truth. And this is not another podcaster that says, oh, you know, you're enough. No, the fuck you aren't.
Not enough.
You're fucking— you could be, but you ain't right now. And that's what you got to realize, okay? You are a raw fucking piece of granite that has not been chiseled out yet, and you need to get the fucking hammer in so that you could chisel out what the fuck you're trying to create. And then once that thing is sculpted, people appreciate it. Nobody appreciates a big block of granite when it's just sitting there. It's just— nobody comes in and says— nobody comes in and says, there's a— there's a— look at this, that sculpture of David is just as beautiful as that block of granite. There's not a fucking single person in history that's ever said that. So you think you're gonna be the first one? Now, do you have the ability to do that? Sure. Are you doing it? Maybe. Have you done it to your maximum ability? Probably not. And if you want to be what it is you say you want to be, you would become that.
I love it, dude. I love it, man. Guys, Andy, our third and final question. Got a young buck here. Question number 3. Andy, I believe social media has completely messed up my perception of success. I'm 23 and every day I see people my age claiming they're millionaires. They're buying watches, they're buying cars, they're buying houses.
Meanwhile, I'm trying to figure out my career and pay my rent on time.
Realistically, I know comparison is stupid, but it still gets in my head. So how do you recommend I stay focused on the real world when the internet constantly makes me feel behind?
Okay. There's a couple of things here. Number one, you have to understand you're not wrong. Okay. I have watched the internet evolve. All right. When I started on social media in 2012, You had a few entrepreneurs that were giving good advice that had actually built real things. Like, and what I mean by real things is like you could see them, you could order their product. They were like, they had real shit, real businesses. Okay. Now this has evolved into a big horse and pony show. And these kids, what they do is they go out they create some sort of hustle, and then they take all that money and they go lease a fucking Lamborghini for, uh, or whatever, for, you know, a 12-year interest-only lease, trying to posture so that you, the actual guy, will look at them and say, I'm gonna buy whatever they're selling.
They must be doing something right, right? Yeah.
This has completely Fucked the perception of what entrepreneurship is actually about. Entrepreneurship is the hardest fucking job you will ever choose in your entire life. And when you see some kid out there saying, I'm the guy that got this at 23, how did you get it? Where's your company? Where's your employees? What do you ship? What service do you offer? Can I talk to your customers? Where are they? Who are they? Okay. And you have to learn to vet this shit out because it doesn't take a whole bunch of selling widgets or bullshit to afford a $3,000 a month lease to then pretend to be successful. Okay. You have to know the difference. And if you lack the discernment to be able to tell the difference, you're, you're not going to be successful anyway because you don't have enough intelligence to do it. That's just the truth.
Like, there's a bare minimum.
There is a bare minimum intelligence that's required. And being able to, to do due diligence to understand if someone is real or not, that's one of them. And, and dude, part of the problem is we want to believe that story.
Yeah.
Okay. Especially when we're 19, 20, 21, 22. We want to believe it. We want to believe that we can be the guy who's on a yacht, uh, you know, and, and driving a fucking a Bugatti when they're 24 years old. We want to, because that sounds fucking awesome, man. You can do it, bro. When I was 24, someone was saying, oh dude, you could drive it. I for sure would have bought their shit because I'm like, how the fuck did they do it? So you lack the perspective to understand what it's actually about, and this is a big problem. And what it does is it creates this, this issue where a lot of people who are not cut out for the lane of entrepreneurship start believing that that's the right lane for them to be in, but they're not built for it, bro. It's hard as fuck. It takes everything you got. You have to be willing to give things up. You're gonna lose relationships. You're gonna lose friends. You're gonna lose fucking a lot of shit to be successful. You're gonna pass up on a lot of shit, and you're gonna have to do that for a really long time.
And that entire time that you're doing it, you're gonna have to wonder if it's ever gonna work out. Very few people are actually set up to just hammer and hammer and hammer and hammer and never know if it's actually gonna materialize. That is a fucking special kind of person. That's a special kind of mental toughness. And not everybody's equipped for that. And not everybody wants to give up their weekends and their nights and their dinners, nor should they. Nor should they. Uh, there's nothing wrong with earning an honest living and having a balanced life that makes you happy. You don't have to be this. You don't have to. But for the ones that really want it, you have to be able to discern what's real and what's fake. And there's so much fake out here that it's almost impossible for them to tell because these people are good at faking it. And you lack the perspective that someone like me who's built really fucking massive things in real life has from looking back down the mountain. Okay. Like when you're at the bottom of the mountain and you see someone that is, you know, a quarter of the way up and you're like, fuck, how'd he get there so fast?
Well, you didn't see the helicopter come over and drop him the fuck off.
Or that it's a green screen.
Yeah. Yes. You didn't see that shit, dude. So you have to realize that like literally 99% of these people on the internet are full of fucking shit. I— real talk, full stop. 99%. If you can't see their company and you can't order their product and you can't talk to their customers, or they don't have a service, or they don't— you can't recognize the businesses, or they won't tell you the businesses, or they— like, that's all red flag shit that you have to fucking understand. Every— if— let me ask you this. If you had real businesses and you had this massive portfolio of small businesses and shit and all these things going on, and you were actually trying to— wouldn't you tell? What would be the reason you wouldn't tell people that if that's what you're trying to help people do? Why would you hide that? Yeah, there's no reason for it. You would be showing people, you would be going into the businesses, you would say, here's this business that I'm partners in, we're doing this and this and this. Here's this business that we're doing, we're doing this and this and this. Here's this person that I helped, they did, they went from here to here.
And that person would say, yeah, I did it. Like, there would be real-world evidence. You'd be able to go order their products, you'd be able to read their reviews. This, you have to verify this shit, okay? If you can't do that, they're fucking lying. Because if they were doing it, it would be an asset and a marketing advantage for them to show that shit. So understand that there's all these people out here that are selling digital coaching that are saying, oh, I made all this money doing this and this and this and this and this. And they got like, they might have a couple cars, they might have, all right, but their businesses, what are the names of them? Where are they? How come you're never shooting? How come if you've, how come if you have these things, why are you shooting content in your front fucking yard?
Yeah.
Why aren't you like, why we never see you in your office? Why we never see you? You see what I'm saying? Yeah, like, why? Because they're lying, okay? And they're making all of their money selling you something that they never actually did, okay? So keep that in mind. Now, what you have to understand is that there's a— that's the bullshit. The reality is that you are going to have to be prepared to run the motherfucking gauntlet. And guess what? The gauntlet never fucking ends. It's not something there's an end to. You're not going to get to the end of it. There's no light at the tunnel, bro. It's a constant fight. That's the path you're choosing. You are choosing a path of a constant battle that's going to last your entire life. And what you're going to get out of it is a lifestyle and an experience that other people will never have. And we can argue what's better or not, but that's the reality. All right? You're not going to have to worry about paying for dinners. You're not gonna have to worry about where you go to vacation. You're not going to have to worry about which car you want to drive.
You're not going to have to worry about making mortgage payments. Those people are going to have to worry about them, but they are going to have things that you don't have. They are going to have their weekends. They are going to have their nights with their families. They are going to have other things that you just won't be able to have in the same capacity. So we got to understand the reality before you fucking sign up for it. Okay. And your question was, I always feel like I'm behind. Well, yeah, man, because you're consuming internet bullshit.
Yeah.
Okay. You know how many motherfuckers out here are out here building real careers, doing real shit in real companies that are becoming very successful that probably feel like they're way behind because these other people are lying. Like, dude, it's a big problem.
Yeah.
You know, and you just have to remind yourself, dude, that it's just not real. Yeah, it's just not real shit. Okay. I've been doing this long enough. Okay. In the personal development game, there's— I can't really go any higher. That's the truth. Okay. I got to the point where I got tired of doing it. That's when I switched off MSCL in 2020. Like, it's like I won that game, you know what I'm saying? I, I just don't— that's a whole nother thing because now it created a vacuum for all this stupid shit. You guys got to understand, man, there's nothing wrong with, with, with building something real and it taking a long time. That's actually how it goes. Okay. And all these people who are telling you different and then saying, buy my shit, they're making all their money off buy my shit. Okay. It's a fucking act.
Yeah.
It's a fucking character. And if you're out there and you're working hard and you're working smart and you're genuinely building something, I can promise you this is not going to look like Bugattis in 3 fucking years. It's fucking not. Do not let these liars make you feel like you're doing it wrong because it's hard for you. Do not make— let these people make you feel like you're doing it wrong because it's taking longer than it maybe took them, because you're already way ahead of them because you're building something fucking real. Okay, easy come, easy go.
Dude, I was just about to fucking say that, dude.
It's, it's an appearance. Fast money comes, fast money goes. You want a foundation for your whole entire life that's going to create generational wealth to the point where when, you know, you're my age, you know, I don't have to— I don't have to do anything. Like, I don't have to do anything. I could never show up here again. And it doesn't matter how much inflation happens, I'm going to be living the same life. But again, I'm built for the motherfucking game. I've been doing this so long that I'm addicted to it. And you go, oh, that's not healthy. Well, it's not healthy for you, because I'll tell you what's not healthy for me is not doing it. Because every motherfucking time I've tried to relax and be a normal person, you know what happens? I end up sitting on the couch thinking, fuck, dude, I'm gonna fucking kill myself. This is fucking horrible. And I don't say that figuratively. I mean, literally. So for me, I have to fight. I have to go. And if you're really built for it, you understand exactly what I'm saying. And if you're not built for it, it sounds fucking crazy.
Okay. But if you are built for it and you try to live like everybody else, you're going to be fucking miserable. So don't let these people talk you into like, you know, oh, you got to relax or you got to do this or you got to do this or, you know, you got trauma or relax or fuck, bro, that's for you. This is what I do. And the world fucking requires people like that. What if there wasn't a bunch of crazy psycho motherfuckers that were addicted to building shit? What would the world look like? Okay, the world needs fucking people who are willing to fight, people who are relentless, people who never give up, people who are addicted to the game. All the great shit that's ever been built that you utilize every single day, the places you go to eat, the clothes you wear, the fucking cars you drive, they're all built by people like that, bro. All of it. Okay, so if you're one of those people and everybody's telling you're one of those people, it's probably a good thing.
Yeah. All right. Yeah.
But you got to understand, dude, they're speaking a different language than you. All right. All that shit you see on the internet, that's for other people. All that feel-good shit, that's for other people. All that shit, all that idealistic bullshit, that's for people to feel better about not pursuing what they know they're supposed to pursue. The reason they're depressed, the reason they have anxiety, the reason they're unfulfilled has nothing to do with how much they've done. It has to do with what they know they should have done but chose not to do. And they're wrestling with it on the inside. And if they would have applied themselves, or if they start now, that would change. Okay? It's really hard to be depressed when you have big goals and big dreams that you're working on every day. Really fucking hard. All right? So I know I said a lot there, but at the end of the day, fuck these motherfuckers on the internet. They're a bunch of liars. 98% of them are liars. If they can't show you their fucking receipts, they're lying. Period. Because if they could show you the receipts, they'd fucking show them because it would help them do what they're doing.
Mm-hmm. Or you would just know. You would know those names of those companies. You would. Yeah.
Yeah. Come on, dude. It's bullshit.
Yeah.
Yeah. Okay. Now, now, are those people— now, are there people that have specialized skill sets that know, that know how to help and do, can sell around those things? Absolutely. Absolutely. But those people are also wealthy for real because they've utilized those skill sets to build that wealth.
All right.
So you have to be able to discern all this shit. But I'm going to tell you right now, I've been around this a long time, dude. I'm just being real. Okay. Most, most of it. And I'm not talking about 80%. I'm talking upper 90%. Is total smoke and mirrors. That's it. So you can't let it fucking— you can't let it make you think that it's real. It's like, it's like comparing. Oh, and by the way, there's another part to that question. He said something about comparing. What are you saying there?
He said, realistically, I know comparison is stupid.
No, it's not stupid. That's the point. That was what I was going to say. That was the point. Comparison is a fucking amazing thing if you're comparing to the right people.
That's right.
Okay, you are in a competition. You can pretend you're not, people can say you're not, everybody can act like it's wrong, but the truth of the matter is you are in a competition. You are trying to do something that only a certain amount of people get to do, and you're trying to do it at a level that only a certain amount of people ever get to get at. And that means it's a fucking competition for who the fuck gets there. This whole idea that everybody can do it, it's not true because there's other people in your lane doing the same thing that you, and there's only so much market share, and you have to own that market share to get to that result. And if you don't, you won't. So it is a competition, a fucking very real one, probably the fiercest, toughest, most brutal competition you could ever sign up for. It's harder than fucking anything. And this idea that it's not a competition is total shit. That's what people tell people who have given up on all their shit and want to feel good about it. That's why I say a lot of these people are predatory.
They know what they're saying. What's a— what's— what's a bigger market to sell to? The 2% of entrepreneurs that are actually successful out of the 8% of the total population, 8% of the fucking 8% of the population, 8-10% entrepreneurs, 2% are fucking successful of that 8%. Okay, what's a bigger market, that 10% or that 90% that feel bad about their life going the way that they want to go? And you could sell them things that make them feel better, that don't know any better. These people are salesmen. They like— when you hear all this feel-good shit about inner peace and all this fucking shit, that's for them. I'm gonna tell you something, dude. You're signing up for the hardest battle ever. It's very rare that you get inner peace, okay? You don't get to sit around and rub fucking bowls and go, you know what I'm saying? Like, that ain't the fucking life you're signing.
A lot of crystals you can shove up.
You're signing up for fucking hard-ass shit. You're signing up for 2 AM phone calls. You're signing up for getting out of bed at fucking 4 o'clock in the morning. You're signing up for getting your balls kicked in every motherfucking day. You're signing up for losing money over and over and over and over and over again. You're signing up for losing girlfriends, losing boyfriends, losing friends, losing relationships, missing out on all the cool shit, quote unquote. That's what the fuck you're signing up for. That is the path. But then again, the reward is much different than what they get. Okay. And dude, what they get, they should just appreciate it. Like, if you're one of these people who's not in that 90 or not in that 10%, bro, live your life. Do well enough to live your life and enjoy your life. Don't agonize yourself into thinking that you need to be an entrepreneur, that you got to make all this money or this or that, bro. You, you have a gift too.
Yeah.
And by the way, that's most people. And you know what, those people usually, if they don't antagonize themselves with these fake dreams about who they aren't are actually the happier people. Okay, well, don't you want to be happy, Andy? I am happy because my fucking— what I do makes me happy. You don't understand that, right? Like, you're thinking what makes you happy makes me happy. That is not the same thing, bro. If I said— if I went home every day at fucking 4 o'clock and sat around and then every weekend I didn't have shit to do, I would be fucking miserable.
It lasts a couple of days.
Oh, dude, for me at this point in my life, I can't even do it for a day. Yeah. Andy, why aren't you going on 2-week vacations? Because, bro, that's— I can't do that. I'm not into that. That doesn't make me fucking happy. That doesn't make— I'm a builder. I'm a creator. I want to be in the fucking fight. That's what makes me fucking happy. I'm wired that way. All right. You're wired a different way. That's fucking totally cool, man. Okay. But like this whole thing, like, this is why, like, people that are wired the other way, they always say, well, you should do this and this and this. And, you know, but you're not— you don't seem to be happy. Yeah, because you don't understand what makes me happy. It is inconceivable to you that someone would be happy living in that kind of a battle. But if we didn't have people like that, what the fuck would the world look like? So if you're one of those people, you have to realize that you are a very important person in society. That provides a ton of value for people and they're going to fucking think you're crazy for doing it, but they're going to benefit from it.
So it's like, be what you are, dude. You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
There's nothing wrong with either way, but you got to know what you are and you got to be true to yourself. Otherwise you're going to fucking be miserable.
Yeah, Father, that's the— that's the— you can be extremely successful as an entrepreneur.
Oh, dude, extremely successful. Listen, The happiest people are very effective entrepreneurs or people who are part of an organization who come in, who kick ass, who are very skilled. They get paid very well because they provide value, and then they still get to have the benefits of going home, enjoying their family, going on vacations and doing the things that normal people do. And they love that, that those are actually the happiest people because they get enough financial freedom to live their life. There's— I actually, like, real talk, dude, I wish I was one of those people a lot of times. I just— I'm just not. And I tried to be one of those people. I had a very— I had a person that I respect a whole lot who's a good friend of mine one time try to convince me that I needed to, like, chill out and relax and, you know, this. And I tried to do that, bro. And I went through the hardest, darkest time of my entire life, like where I got literally suicidal about it. And I felt like, bro, what the fuck is wrong with me? And I was sitting with my other friend, Zoltán, and we were sitting in my cigar lounge having this amazing conversation.
I was explaining this to him. He's like, and you know, the guy's so smart and so simple too. Yeah. He's like, did you ever think that, you know, you're built for the fight. Like, did you ever realize that people— like, he's telling me what I'm telling you. And once that clicked, I was like, oh, game on, motherfucker.
Yeah, that's right.
This is what the fuck I am.
That's right.
You know, it's like, it's like trying to be a fish and climbing a tree. Like, the shit doesn't— fishes swim. That's right. You know what I'm saying? Like, go swim. Yeah, go swim, you know. And fucking raccoons climb trees or whatever, man. I'm one of them, you know, I'm not the same as you.
Yeah.
And there are different kinds of human beings. So you got to know what you are and you got to go on that path and you got to choose wisely. Now, in the beginning, you have a lot of doubt because right now there's a lot of young people listening and they're like, well, fuck, which one am I?
That's right. How do I know then?
How do I know? Okay, here's how you know. Are you willing to have that life that they have? That's it. Are you willing to have what everybody else has? Does that appeal to you? Is that what you want? If that's not what you want and you want more, you're never gonna be happy with that.
Fuck. There's the secret sauce, dog.
Yeah.
That's it. I love it, dude. So I love it, man. Beautiful Memorial Day, man.
Yep.
Guys, Andy, that was 3.
All right. All right guys, we will see you tomorrow with CTI. Don't be a hoe.
Share the shop.
Yeah, went from sleeping on the floor, now my jewelry box froze. Fuck up boat, fuck up stove, counted millions in the cold. Bad bitch, booty swole, got her own bankroll. Can't fold, that's a no. Headshot, case closed.
On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to stop thinking like you're broke even after making good money, how to handle people treating you differently after losing weight and finding success, and how to stay focused on your goals when social media distorts the idea of "success".