Transcript of What to say when someone belittles you | Mel Robbins #Shorts

How do you handle somebody that belittles you? Picking on your weight or they're constantly like, Are you still single?

When somebody is belittling you or giving you a insult, that hurtful comment, you make them say it again, because what they're hoping to do in that belittling comment is get that reaction out of you. Instead, you find a way to take all the fun out of it. When you ask them to repeat what they said, you're not giving them that hit of dopamine that they were expecting from your reaction. They're not getting that response time from you. Instead, you're delaying that gratification for them. Then it's just not worth it. Then it's just not fun. Then also what you lead up with that is you ask questions of intent. For example, did you say that to hurt me? Now it's this mirror that they feel like, Why did I say that? Oh, okay. Then they start to backtrack. Then you don't have to say anything.