Transcript of Talking Dateline: Conversations at CrimeCon Part 2

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Hi, everybody.

Lester Holt here. We've got a special Talking Dateline for you this week. It's part 2 of a conversation Josh Mankiewicz had at this year's CrimeCon with Alison Barber, his NBC News colleague and host of the Netflix video podcast Allegedly. The conversation was taped in front of a live audience at Caesars Palace in Las Vegas, and the audience had some questions of their own for Josh, which we'll play later. But first, Allison, who is a lifelong Dateline fan herself, asks Josh what it's like talking to families who have suffered the unimaginable.

Hi guys, I'm so happy to be here at CrimeCon. I'm so honored to be here with you. How has your CrimeCon been?

Uh, it's been wonderful. Um, I've, uh, Seen a lot of familiar faces. I gather this is— if it's not the biggest CrimeCon, it's certainly pretty close. It's a lot of people. I cannot find my way around Caesars. Yeah.

No one else can either.

But I bring you greetings from everybody at Dateline, particularly what's-his-name.

Let's talk Dateline. One of your old episodes I recently watched, I think it's called Haunted, um, and it, it's— they're investigating a pair of double murders that took place in Nebraska years apart.

Oh yeah.

And police are starting to realize they think that they're dealing with a serial killer.

Right.

And one of the things in that that I thought a lot about after was there's a moment— one of the victims was an 11-year-old, I think his name was Tom Hunter.

Yep.

And there was a moment when you're doing interviews with some of the families And you say something about how grief presents itself in different ways. And for me, I think about that a lot when I'm covering stories, because it's hard to know how anybody will react in a traumatic situation. But I also think of recent cases where there have been instances where people—

Yeah.

Have felt like they— their family has come under a microscope unfairly. You know, there was a case recently involving a dentist where he and his wife were murdered. And there was a situation where the brother-in-law, and I've spoken to him, where he talked about, people speculating when he was doing media interviews of thinking that he was behaving in a way, and he had nothing to do with this, and how painful it was for him and his family. And I was curious, when you think about that concept of sort of grief presenting itself in different ways, what have you learned in that regard, and how does it impact the way you cover stories?

One of the things I never say in Dateline, and that I, that I try not to use if we get interviews on this, Is the idea that settling one of these cases, figuring out who it was, maybe locking somebody up, represents something called closure. Because that doesn't exist. And it's a nice idea, but it is not reality. And I hate it when people talk about, well, now the family can have some closure. Yeah, never gonna happen. They're not— that's not gonna happen. Your life is split in half, the part before and the part after. And I think that sort of the ripple effect of murder is something that isn't as well understood, something I certainly didn't understand until I started covering this, which was about 20 years ago at Dateline. And the extent to which things that happen, these losses that families suffer, end up affecting people who maybe didn't even know the person who was killed.

Mm-hmm.

Kids who grow up and then have families of their own, and then They have a kid in junior high who says, can I go to this sleepaway? And the answer is, absolutely not, you cannot. And they say, well, everybody else is going. Yeah, well, you're not. And they can't even really— parents sometimes can't even really explain why that is. And it's because it mirrors too directly the situation that their own family member went through. So I mean, I think that the idea that distance and time sort of mitigates what people feel. Again, it's like closure. It's a nice idea. It's not always real life.

In some of these stories that you've done and the families that you have gotten to meet— Nicole Schmidt is here, Gabby Petito's mom. You and I have both been able to meet her, and she's such an amazing person. And for me, when I think about that story and all the news coverage that came around it, I find hope because I think that it is the lesson that comes from it is that there is a chance that everybody can do something that can have a big impact. How has that been for you, seeing families go through the unimaginable, being put in positions they never asked for, having their lives irreparably changed, and then choosing to use it to do something?

Sometimes, you know, what we see on Dateline shatters people, and it's ended marriages, and it has reduced people to a puddle. And sometimes it transforms people. I did a story right at the beginning of sort of our focus on true crime in San Diego about a woman named Tori Vannau. She and her almost infant son, he was killed and she was killed by the baby's father who did not want to pay child support, but I think mostly did not want to embarrass his family. I thought that was sort of the motivation. He's locked up now. Tori's mom, sort of fell apart after that, losing her daughter and her grandson, and then picked herself up, and a couple of years later was like Victim Advocate of the Year in California. Now, when I encounter families who are having a difficult time, which is not uncommon, I send them to Tori's mom, Dana Aras, and she's been able to help people. Tracy Mathison, whose daughter Molly was murdered. There's a thing called Project Beloved, which I urge you to all take a look at. That's a similar kind of thing, which was spawned by the loss of someone.

It's like the Smart family in California, who, even though a man was convicted of killing Kristin, their daughter, like, they haven't stopped for a second. Like, they want her body. Like, they know, they know she's dead. They want her remains, and they're still putting pressure on law enforcement, uh, to find it. And I, I, and I, I, I, I think they will at some point because they're relentless. So, I mean, you see both sides of this.

You mentioned Kristin Smart. There's been a lot of activity in terms of searches related to Kristin Smart of late. What do you make of that?

Look, I mean, I think a lot of it is due to a couple of things. The Smart family, as I just said, won't give up. They have remained very focused on getting a result in that, even after their daughter's murderer was convicted. I think it's also a tribute to the sheriff there. who, when he was elected, which was some years ago, made a pledge during the campaign that he, like, this was like the big unsolved case in that jurisdiction, and he wanted to make it a priority, and he said that he would, and then he did. So that's part of it. The other part of it, which was this great sort of X factor, was that, as a lot of you probably know, a podcast played a huge role in that case. In some ways, that's sort of what I want to give law enforcement and the sheriff's office sort of the most credit for, because frequently when someone unorthodox walks through the door, whether it's a private citizen or private eye or a podcaster or a journalist, and says, I have information on your case. I think I know some things that you might want to know, frequently law enforcement are not terribly interested in talking to those people.

those people, or they say, like, great, you know, fill out this form, which I might never read. But in this case, the podcaster, a guy named Chris Lambert, who has a podcast called Your Own Backyard, that was really sort of instrumental in getting that case over the finish line. And so a huge amount of credit is due, not just to him for the sort of way he presented it, but also to the Smart family and law enforcement, which like listened and was willing to take information from what was a, at the time, a non-traditional source. And I think you'll probably be seeing more of that as the years pass.

When we come back, Ellison and Josh discuss a theme running through several of his recent episodes, stalking, and what more the legal system can do to protect victims.

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2 of your episodes that really stood out to me— we're talking season 34— Crystal Krug and Megan Fox.

Yeah.

For people who maybe haven't seen those episodes, and I think probably most people have, but give us an overview of those, and then I want to ask you kind of more broadly about some of the systemic issues I think it brings up.

Okay. Christy Krug was a mom and an engineer and a wife in the Denver area, killed by her stalker, who she thought was her high school boyfriend. but who turned out to be her husband. And his motivation apparently is that she was going to leave him, and he thought that if he could make her afraid of this phantom stalker that he had created, that she would come back to him. And then when he realized that that wasn't going to work, and that in fact he was going to be found out, and then he would be on the losing side of what was going to be a lopsided divorce, then he felt that he had no choice but to kill her. That story is interesting because police in Broomfield, Colorado, which is just outside Denver, had written search warrants for the phone and internet companies that this phantom stalker was using to contact Christyle. So, they'd written warrants for phone and internet and text companies, trying to figure out where this guy was and where these texts were coming from. And that information was not made available until the day that Christy was murdered in her garage.

Then the police department went back to those companies and said, now we have a, not just a stalker, but a killer on the loose. And we need that information right away. And it arrived within hours, making it clear that that information could have been provided before she died. And if that information had been provided, she almost certainly would have thrown her husband out of the house, changed the locks, taken a— she certainly wouldn't have allowed him to stand behind her in the garage, which is where he was when he murdered her.

Right.

So that made Christyle's family, through their grief, her cousin Becky, who was a domestic violence prosecutor, began lobbying the Oregon State Legislature where she lived to pass a law called Christyle's Law. And they did pass it, and it's now on the books in Oregon, and it requires that in stalking cases, there is a very short clock on companies that receive law enforcement search warrants to respond with that information. That is a wonderful development, and I look forward to it expanding to all 50 states. The fact that we played any role in that at all is wonderful, but that was Christy's family at work. The Morgan Fox episode was outside the Canton, Ohio area. She was being stalked by someone at work. All these people worked at FedEx in a packaging facility, and he murdered his coworker, who he was clearly obsessed with, and she merely saw him as a friend. So one of those is sort of workplace stalking, and the other one is sort of a more traditional form of stalking. I ended up doing a lot of work on stalking because of those 2 cases, and I didn't know this before we started down the, down the Christy Krug story road, which is that stalking is not even a felony in about half the states in the United States.

It's about where domestic violence was about 30 to 40 years ago, which is that frequently the response from the criminal justice system is, you better stop doing that.

But when you think about the cases that you have covered, when you look at statistics today, the CDC says 1 in 5 women in the United States have experienced— and this is as of 2024— have experienced some sort of stalking incident in their lifetime. It amounts to like 22.8 million women in this country alone.

Right.

And then you think—

And that's just the ones that are reported.

Correct.

Yeah.

A lot of people, when you talk to people who've experienced this, will say they feel like, if I go report, nothing will be done. And then maybe the person who's doing it is going to get mad. Maybe the situation will get worse.

And as we know from domestic violence, uh, much more attention and much more severe penalties are required than just essentially saying, you stop doing this, don't make me come back here. But Stalking requires a concerted, deliberate effort and series of efforts to do something, and so much of it now has moved from parking across the street from somebody's house to online.

Mm-hmm.

And the laws need to reflect that, and they need to reflect how closely stalking is frequently followed by other crimes, many of which are significantly more violent, dangerous, and frightening. And so, like, we're kind of at the infancy of things evolving with that, but that is the thread that unquestionably connects both of those, both of those cases, and unfortunately, I guarantee you, we're going to be doing more.

You talk about it being kind of in the infancy, in its infancy, at least legally speaking, but I look back and I think 1990 in California, you had one of the first anti-stalking laws passed. It was considered landmark legislation. It came after a series of high-profile murders that had come from a stalking situation and/or attempted murders. And essentially what that law did at the time, in essence, was it said, okay, there are some behaviors that maybe individually will not amount to a crime, but if there is a pattern, that's something that could be criminally prosecuted. And the idea behind that law was saying the pattern maybe changes things. When you think about the legislation that was passed in the '90s that is looked at and often framed as these landmark moments, legally speaking, Do you think they've done enough to change the course of what's happening?

Clearly not. But, you know, and as I said, it's got to— I mean, a lot of the laws that are on the books sort of don't reflect cyberstalking, like, at all. That's all changed with social media and the fact that everybody has a phone in their hand now. That, I mean, that's a whole other aspect of this. But no, I mean, I remember when I was a local news reporter in Los Angeles, an actress named Rebecca Schaeffer had been murdered by this guy who who got her address from the DMV and came to her door and killed her. One of the laws that was changed as a result of that is you can't get that kind of information, but that was a great start, but it didn't go much beyond that. For example, on the search warrant thing, phone, internet, and text companies will tell you, we get thousands of requests from law enforcement all the time. And we do not have the personnel to answer all of those search warrants, and we generally rely on law enforcement to tell us which ones are urgent and which ones are not. Of course, the other thing is that law enforcement has figured out that if you say it's urgent, you're going to get the results back quicker.

Yeah.

It's not always as urgent as maybe they make it sound. The idea of Christieel's Law, which would be great if it were expanded nationally, is that But in stalking cases, it requires a much more immediate response by the tech companies than has previously existed. Again, you're working a 30-year cold case homicide, it might not matter as much if you get the phone records back today as opposed to getting them tomorrow. But it does matter in a stalking case.

When we come back, Josh answers some questions from the audience, including one about his good friend, Keith Morrison.

We have mic stands if people want to start lining up to ask any sort of question.

Who has a question?

Oh, we have over here.

Go ahead.

Could you tell Keith how much we miss him here at CrimeCon?

I will. You mean here at CrimeCon?

We miss him a lot.

Yes, I'll tell him. He's definitely going to be on plenty of stories in the next few months, but I will tell him. that he needs to come to CrimeCon.

A quick question for you. I have a friend whose daughter was murdered and could use some direction from an advocate to advocate for his own daughter's case. How would I get in touch with, or he get in touch with, Tory's mom?

Tory Vannell's mom?

Yeah.

Dana Herrroz is her name. H-E-R-R-O-Z. Yeah, Dana read like 50 books about how to survive, about recovering from grief, but none of them were about dealing with violent loss. They were all about what if a family member of yours dies from illness or a car accident or something. And so she contributed to one. There's a book on Amazon called The Murder Survivor's Handbook. I'm sure you can find it elsewhere, but it is on Amazon. And that's been useful for a lot of people.

Okay, great. Thanks.

Yep.

Can I go over here?

Yeah. Oh, hello.

Hey, Josh. I'm Keith Sharon, the host of the Murder on Musical Road podcast.

Oh, yes.

You and I worked on a case, a similar case in Southern California about the death of Kathy Torres. And I thought it might be good for you to illustrate the links that of advocacy that her mother, Mary Bennett, went to.

Yeah, I mean, that's a perfect example, is what Mary Torres went through. She was pretty sure, I think, she knew what had happened. I mean, she wasn't just advocating that law enforcement get to work or work harder. She was like, no, no, this is who it is. Let's focus on that.

And got a job at the police department.

Right, and then—

So they had to stare at her every day at the desk next to the chief of police.

Yeah, and then literally, like, came inside the building, which is just an amazing thing.

Good to see you.

Nice to see you.

Thank you. Yeah, go ahead.

Hello, I'm Stacy with womeninhorror.com, and I have a question that I think the answer is yes, but I have to ask Josh.

Have you seen the Bill Hader impersonation of you? There's an impersonation of me? Yeah, I saw it. So the day that it happened, we heard sort of through back channels that you guys should watch Kimmel tonight, right? I guess Kimmel's staff must have called, or somebody at ABC did, ABC Entertainment. So I was told you have to watch, but I didn't know why. So then I saw it the night it aired, and I was like— What did you think? It was incredible. Also, I would have told you that you couldn't imitate Dennis, but his imitation of Dennis was so great. So, yeah, now people have sent that to me like 1,000 times, because every time it reruns, people think it's the first time, right? And they say, have you seen this? I'm like, I have, yeah.

Yeah?

So, yeah, it's amazing. Yes, I've seen it. I've seen it a lot of times. I've never met Bill Hader, and, you know, there's this kind of like, sort of unspoken rule in Los Angeles, which is where I live, and I think where he lives, that, you know, you don't sort of go bother people like that. Like, if they're, you know, you see them in a restaurant or something like that. But if I do, if I do ever see him, I'm going to have to, like, interrupt his dinner.

Oh, you've got to.

Yeah, I'm going to be like, because I can't not thank him for that.

Thank you. Thank you.

Yeah, just really quick. I was just wondering, I know you do some cases where there's like law changes because of something that happened to somebody. But do you ever go back many years later as investigative reporters and follow up to see like what did change? Because I'm thinking of a particular case from my neighborhood that was covered that nothing did change. And I don't know, like, I would like to see like many, 10, maybe 10, 15 years later, go back and like, okay, what was missed here?

We've done that on podcasts and And if you're a premium subscriber on podcast, you can listen to a thing called After the Verdict, which is updates on stories that we've done. Not just what people are doing, but exactly things like that, like what came of this issue that we brought up in a story.

Okay, thank you very much.

Thank you. This feels like a good place to talk about Alison's podcast, video podcast, which is on Netflix. Which is something you should all be checking out. I have already watched it and found it kind of hypnotic.

Thank you.

So yeah, that's another— it's already like appointment viewing in my house. And it's called Allegedly. And so I'm sort of looking forward to seeing where that goes. And I'm also looking forward to finding the right case where I can—

I know, I really want a crossover episode.

Yeah, I want that too.

I've asked repeatedly.

Yes.

So now that I have you saying it in front of people that you'll do it, everybody help me remember this.

No, no, we gotta, we gotta find the case, but I'm gonna be on there with her. Thank you, guys.

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