Transcript of Stop Chasing "The Spark" with Dating | Mel Robbins #Shorts

We have this fantasy of chasing the spark. And if you are somebody that's trying to date to get over someone, what are you looking for? You're looking for a spark. You're looking for fire to fill up the hole that's inside you. And some of the best relationships, in fact, only 11% of relationships began with a spark.

The rest of them are slow burns. It's the person that was a friend of a friend that you kept seeing at a party. It's the person that lived down the hall or that you kept seeing in the stairwell. It's the person that grew on you over time. Spark is attraction.

A relationship is about compatibility and commitment. In the modern world, you hear the word love, and you think it means chemistry. But true love is about admiration and consideration, and that grows over time.