Transcript of 751. Q&AF: Hiring And Firing, Attitude For Greatness & Understanding Aggressive Patience

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Sore feeling a little grape ishGuys.Andy, question number two. Hey, Andy. I'm going to be a sophomore in high school in a couple of weeks. I got screwed over last year in school ball for softball. I was promised a starting spot at second base as a freshman and I had it for a game or two. But a girl from another school, her dad knew the assistant coach. She got my spot. I got shoved to right field, which I'm not complaining about because I still played as a freshman on varsity. But she just walked in and took my spot. The position I earned. She got it handed to her. Next year, I'm going to strive to get third base. I do not want it to happen again. I want to be a killer next year. I want to be the oh, shit kind of player when coaches see me. Not the we got it in the bag kind of player. I' to be times in your life where you are as good as someone else and that someone else will have a relationship or they'll have a connection and be so for that reason, being as good is not good enough. Like you said in your question, you have to be the kind of person that someone says, oh, shit, they're fucking good. Okay? If you are not undeniably better than the person that you are competing with, you have to understand that you're running the risk of not getting that job. And that goes for, you know, varsity softball. That goes for college softball. That goes for your career and your whole entire life. If you are as good as someone else that you are competing with. You are running the risk of not getting the job because of some other aspect.All right? So I would caution you to not look at these situations and say, oh, they only got that because of their dad, because you're creating a mental dialog. We're going to get into the mental part now. You're creating a mental dialog. That is an excuse. Making dialog. Okay? And you don't want to get in that habit. I'm not saying that you're out of line here, but what I am saying is you want to be very careful what you blame and who you blame when you don't get what you want, because ultimately it's you. The truth of the matter is, is had you practice and taken a thousand more reps than that girl who went to second base, you would have still been playing at second base, but she probably took the same amount of reps that you did, maybe even more. And that's why you're not there. And that's the truth. So let's bottom line the truth here. It's not about the dad. It's about how good you are. If you were undeniably better than her, do you think that they would have moved you to right field? No, they would have kept you there.They would have put her in right field. All right. So that's the first thing that I want you to understand, and I appreciate you asking the question, but if you're going to ask a question here, you're going to get a straight answer. I don't care if you're five or if you're 50, all right? So you need to get better. That's the truth. Mentally, how do you get better? You have to adopt this mindset that I'm explaining to you that you have to be undeniably better in every area of your life. So, like. And what I mean by every area of your life, I mean as you go through life, and this could be your career, right? Let's say you're not going to become a professional softball player. Let's say you're going to become an accountant. You have to be a much better, higher skilled accountant than the person I would just commit to the work. I would, like, honestly assess, you know, like, let's just. Well, how many reps is Susie doing? Susie's doing a hundred ground balls. All right? You got to do 150, 50versus someone who's born with the natural skill, who doesn't appreciate it and doesn't learn that way of operating over the course of time. So a lot of times when you're younger, you look around, for example, like in business, people will say things like this, oh, that guy was born with rich parents. You know, he. His parents, he like, dude, when I was starting my business, bro, there was all kinds of people I competed with that had, like, you know, parents that invested a bunch of money in their business or, you know, they came from very wealthy circumstances, so they had options, right? But here's the problem. The problem is they had options, okay? And because they had options, they weren't able to fully dedicate themselves to becoming great at what they did. For me to compete with someone with more resources, in the beginning, I had to get better. They didn't have to get better. So ten fast forward ten years, I have all these skills that they don't have because they relied on their resources, and they're still where they are mentally in skillset that they were on day one.Now, who do you think wins ten years in? I'm running circles around these guys, right? Because I had to learn what it takes to compete. And the reason I had to learn what it takes to compete is because I wasn't born with all the bonuses that some of these other people were born with. So if you're that person and you're looking around right now and you're saying, man, I wasn't born with all good, because that's going to force you to develop the things that you're going to need to be successful the course of your life. The work ethic, the grit, the skill set, the ability to learn as you go, the adaptation, the ability to be resourceful, these are things that people who were born with blessings never learn because they rely on those blessings to get them through. So, like, ten years down the road, when you've dedicated yourself right now at 14 years old to, okay, I don't have the gifts that susie has, and I've got to put in twice as much work to get. If you adopt that mindset now, dude, at 25, ten years from now, you're going to be killing everybody because of the mindset that you developed.All right? So just. Just be okay and say, hey, I didn't get everything everybody else got, so I got to work harder.I love it. I absolutely love it. Good luck in your season, guys. Andy, question number three. Third and final question, guys. Dear Andy, I've been wrestling with your concept of aggressive patience recently, and I'm wondering if you can just dive deeper into it. I am 19, a full time employee, and a full time college sophomore studying software development. I'm ready to move out on my own and begin my career with an internship or an entry level position. My family, however, keeps telling me to stay at home, save my money and focus on my studies rather than getting an internship. My question is, in what situations should aggressive patients be used rather than moving forward and taking the next step? And also, if first form happens to be or have a software development internship available, let me know.Um, okay, look, I think you're misunderstanding the concept of aggressive patience. All right? There's. There's. There's three things that have to happen for you to become successful in anything, okay? You have to put in the work, you have to become skilled, and you have to allow time to do its part. And the analogy that I've always used for this is baking a cake, all right? You could want to bake a cake. And you go on Google and you say, oh, I'm gonna bake a cake. And you find this amazing cake recipe from Martha Stewart. It won all the awards, all right? And you're like, all right, that's the cake I wanna make. So you read the recipe out, and you put all the ingredients in the pan. You mix it up just like it says. Exactly like she says. It says 400 degrees for 40 minutes. So you're pouring all the ingredients in the bowl, you pour it in the pan, you're just about ready to put it in the oven, and you're like, fuck, dude, if I cook this thing for 800 degrees for 20 minutes, I could get it out twice as fast.All right? So you. You think you're real smart, so you turn the thing up to 800 degrees, and you set the timer for 20 minutes, and you throw that bitch in there, and then you go to pull it out. What is it? It's burnt to a crisp. It's smoking. Your smoke alarms going off. It smells like shit. And you're like, what the fuck is going on? All right, you did not obey one of the crucial elements of success, which is allowing time to do its part. Okay? We cannot rush time in terms of what it takes for us to materialize our outcome. In most situations now, there is a max velocity that we can achieve, but there is also things that we cannot substitute because they take time. For example, it takes time in business for a customer to become acclimated to your brand. It might take 510 2030 impressions before they ever think about trying your brand out. That doesn't happen in 1 minute just because you want it to. It takes time. Okay? When we think about what that means, that means that we have to be patient. We have to allow time to do its job.But the problem is, is that when we say to people, hey, I need you to be patient. Here, usually what they do when you tell them that they have to be patient is they stop doing the work and they believe that time will just bring them the result without any of the work. And this is where the aggressive part comes in. All right? So you have to understand that it's going to take time, but you have to also understand that every single day, while you're waiting for time to materialize, you have to show up and you have to give Max effort and Max execution. All right? So that's why it's called aggressive patience. It's aggressive in daily execution, but also mindful that we have to be patient. And this is the reality of success. You have to have work, you have to have skill, and you have to have patience. And if you do not have those three things, you cannot win. All right? And a lot of people say you don't need patience. You need to be aggressive. They're saying the same thing I'm saying, but you can't out aggressive time in certain scenarios.Okay? So all you can do is you could show up every day, you can execute perfectly, and the time will be what it is. We can collapse time as much as possible by following the method of aggressive patience. But a lot of guys will tell you, oh, you just need to be patient. And a lot of young people, young in the entrepreneurship game misunderstand that. And they think that means just wait. And that's not what it means. When I say be patient to all of you, what do you think? Automatically you probably think, just wait. Okay, and that that is not good enough. You have to come in every single day, kick ass, execute at a high degree, execute at a high level, and also understand that it's going to take time, and that's what aggressive patience is about. So, um, and it's a required element of success. You can't get around utilizing it.Yeah, yeah. And so, so what you're saying is like, okay, you put that cake in the oven, you set at the right time, it's going to be 40 minutes. You can't speed that time up. You can't stop. It can slow it down.Right.But there's other things that you could also be doing while that cakes.Yeah. You could be making the icing, you could be cleaning the kids. Yeah. You can be clean in the kitchen. You could be making icing. You'd be setting the table. You could be aggressively showing up and getting prepared for that event that you need the cake for. Right. So there's, this is all part of how it works. And, you know, it's very simple when you think about it like that. It's no different than an athlete, bro. An athlete's gonna show up. Like, for example, the girl from the last question, all right? She shows up on day one. We got 365 days in the year, right? She wants to improve her skill set. She shows up on day one and just fucking. She works out for 16 hours that day. Shows up for day 216 hours. Shows up for day 316 hours. Shows up for day 416 hours. Doesn't show up for day five, because she's like, fuck this, okay? Whereas the person who shows up every single day for 8 hours and crushes exactly what they do, and they do that for 365 days straight. That motherfucker is going to be highly skilled because they allowed for time to do its part.How skilled can you get at a sport in one day, no matter how hard you work? Okay, what about a week? What about a year? Yeah, right?There we go.So, so. But if you were to sit on the bench for a year and just say, I'll be better because I'm going to be a year older, you. You're not going to be much better. Right? If any. So we have to understand it's work, skill, and time, and we have to understand the roles that those three things play in the end result that we're chasing. All right? If you. If you're lacking any of them, you won't win. And here's the other thing about aggressive patients. That skill, part of it, you develop while you're being aggressively patient. You see what I'm saying? Whereas if you were just patient, that skill would not grow. So show up every day, execute effectively, do that the next day, do that the next day, and understand that no matter how hard you work today and how hard you work tomorrow, and how hard you work the third day, it's still going to take time.I love it.That's aggressive patience in a nutshell.I absolutely love it, man. Well, guys. Andy, that was three.That was three, guys. All right, we got CTI tomorrow. Remember, go out this week. Be good, be kind, kick ass. Be a good example. We'll see you tomorrow.Went from sleeping on the flow now my jury box froze. 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Andy, question number two. Hey, Andy. I'm going to be a sophomore in high school in a couple of weeks. I got screwed over last year in school ball for softball. I was promised a starting spot at second base as a freshman and I had it for a game or two. But a girl from another school, her dad knew the assistant coach. She got my spot. I got shoved to right field, which I'm not complaining about because I still played as a freshman on varsity. But she just walked in and took my spot. The position I earned. She got it handed to her. Next year, I'm going to strive to get third base. I do not want it to happen again. I want to be a killer next year. I want to be the oh, shit kind of player when coaches see me. Not the we got it in the bag kind of player. I' to be times in your life where you are as good as someone else and that someone else will have a relationship or they'll have a connection and be so for that reason, being as good is not good enough. Like you said in your question, you have to be the kind of person that someone says, oh, shit, they're fucking good. Okay? If you are not undeniably better than the person that you are competing with, you have to understand that you're running the risk of not getting that job. And that goes for, you know, varsity softball. That goes for college softball. That goes for your career and your whole entire life. If you are as good as someone else that you are competing with. You are running the risk of not getting the job because of some other aspect.All right? So I would caution you to not look at these situations and say, oh, they only got that because of their dad, because you're creating a mental dialog. We're going to get into the mental part now. You're creating a mental dialog. That is an excuse. Making dialog. Okay? And you don't want to get in that habit. I'm not saying that you're out of line here, but what I am saying is you want to be very careful what you blame and who you blame when you don't get what you want, because ultimately it's you. The truth of the matter is, is had you practice and taken a thousand more reps than that girl who went to second base, you would have still been playing at second base, but she probably took the same amount of reps that you did, maybe even more. And that's why you're not there. And that's the truth. So let's bottom line the truth here. It's not about the dad. It's about how good you are. If you were undeniably better than her, do you think that they would have moved you to right field? No, they would have kept you there.They would have put her in right field. All right. So that's the first thing that I want you to understand, and I appreciate you asking the question, but if you're going to ask a question here, you're going to get a straight answer. I don't care if you're five or if you're 50, all right? So you need to get better. That's the truth. Mentally, how do you get better? You have to adopt this mindset that I'm explaining to you that you have to be undeniably better in every area of your life. So, like. And what I mean by every area of your life, I mean as you go through life, and this could be your career, right? Let's say you're not going to become a professional softball player. Let's say you're going to become an accountant. You have to be a much better, higher skilled accountant than the person I would just commit to the work. I would, like, honestly assess, you know, like, let's just. Well, how many reps is Susie doing? Susie's doing a hundred ground balls. All right? You got to do 150, 50versus someone who's born with the natural skill, who doesn't appreciate it and doesn't learn that way of operating over the course of time. So a lot of times when you're younger, you look around, for example, like in business, people will say things like this, oh, that guy was born with rich parents. You know, he. His parents, he like, dude, when I was starting my business, bro, there was all kinds of people I competed with that had, like, you know, parents that invested a bunch of money in their business or, you know, they came from very wealthy circumstances, so they had options, right? But here's the problem. The problem is they had options, okay? And because they had options, they weren't able to fully dedicate themselves to becoming great at what they did. For me to compete with someone with more resources, in the beginning, I had to get better. They didn't have to get better. So ten fast forward ten years, I have all these skills that they don't have because they relied on their resources, and they're still where they are mentally in skillset that they were on day one.Now, who do you think wins ten years in? I'm running circles around these guys, right? Because I had to learn what it takes to compete. And the reason I had to learn what it takes to compete is because I wasn't born with all the bonuses that some of these other people were born with. So if you're that person and you're looking around right now and you're saying, man, I wasn't born with all good, because that's going to force you to develop the things that you're going to need to be successful the course of your life. The work ethic, the grit, the skill set, the ability to learn as you go, the adaptation, the ability to be resourceful, these are things that people who were born with blessings never learn because they rely on those blessings to get them through. So, like, ten years down the road, when you've dedicated yourself right now at 14 years old to, okay, I don't have the gifts that susie has, and I've got to put in twice as much work to get. If you adopt that mindset now, dude, at 25, ten years from now, you're going to be killing everybody because of the mindset that you developed.All right? So just. Just be okay and say, hey, I didn't get everything everybody else got, so I got to work harder.I love it. I absolutely love it. Good luck in your season, guys. Andy, question number three. Third and final question, guys. Dear Andy, I've been wrestling with your concept of aggressive patience recently, and I'm wondering if you can just dive deeper into it. I am 19, a full time employee, and a full time college sophomore studying software development. I'm ready to move out on my own and begin my career with an internship or an entry level position. My family, however, keeps telling me to stay at home, save my money and focus on my studies rather than getting an internship. My question is, in what situations should aggressive patients be used rather than moving forward and taking the next step? And also, if first form happens to be or have a software development internship available, let me know.Um, okay, look, I think you're misunderstanding the concept of aggressive patience. All right? There's. There's. There's three things that have to happen for you to become successful in anything, okay? You have to put in the work, you have to become skilled, and you have to allow time to do its part. And the analogy that I've always used for this is baking a cake, all right? You could want to bake a cake. And you go on Google and you say, oh, I'm gonna bake a cake. And you find this amazing cake recipe from Martha Stewart. It won all the awards, all right? And you're like, all right, that's the cake I wanna make. So you read the recipe out, and you put all the ingredients in the pan. You mix it up just like it says. Exactly like she says. It says 400 degrees for 40 minutes. So you're pouring all the ingredients in the bowl, you pour it in the pan, you're just about ready to put it in the oven, and you're like, fuck, dude, if I cook this thing for 800 degrees for 20 minutes, I could get it out twice as fast.All right? So you. You think you're real smart, so you turn the thing up to 800 degrees, and you set the timer for 20 minutes, and you throw that bitch in there, and then you go to pull it out. What is it? It's burnt to a crisp. It's smoking. Your smoke alarms going off. It smells like shit. And you're like, what the fuck is going on? All right, you did not obey one of the crucial elements of success, which is allowing time to do its part. Okay? We cannot rush time in terms of what it takes for us to materialize our outcome. In most situations now, there is a max velocity that we can achieve, but there is also things that we cannot substitute because they take time. For example, it takes time in business for a customer to become acclimated to your brand. It might take 510 2030 impressions before they ever think about trying your brand out. That doesn't happen in 1 minute just because you want it to. It takes time. Okay? When we think about what that means, that means that we have to be patient. We have to allow time to do its job.But the problem is, is that when we say to people, hey, I need you to be patient. Here, usually what they do when you tell them that they have to be patient is they stop doing the work and they believe that time will just bring them the result without any of the work. And this is where the aggressive part comes in. All right? So you have to understand that it's going to take time, but you have to also understand that every single day, while you're waiting for time to materialize, you have to show up and you have to give Max effort and Max execution. All right? So that's why it's called aggressive patience. It's aggressive in daily execution, but also mindful that we have to be patient. And this is the reality of success. You have to have work, you have to have skill, and you have to have patience. And if you do not have those three things, you cannot win. All right? And a lot of people say you don't need patience. You need to be aggressive. They're saying the same thing I'm saying, but you can't out aggressive time in certain scenarios.Okay? So all you can do is you could show up every day, you can execute perfectly, and the time will be what it is. We can collapse time as much as possible by following the method of aggressive patience. But a lot of guys will tell you, oh, you just need to be patient. And a lot of young people, young in the entrepreneurship game misunderstand that. And they think that means just wait. And that's not what it means. When I say be patient to all of you, what do you think? Automatically you probably think, just wait. Okay, and that that is not good enough. You have to come in every single day, kick ass, execute at a high degree, execute at a high level, and also understand that it's going to take time, and that's what aggressive patience is about. So, um, and it's a required element of success. You can't get around utilizing it.Yeah, yeah. And so, so what you're saying is like, okay, you put that cake in the oven, you set at the right time, it's going to be 40 minutes. You can't speed that time up. You can't stop. It can slow it down.Right.But there's other things that you could also be doing while that cakes.Yeah. You could be making the icing, you could be cleaning the kids. Yeah. You can be clean in the kitchen. You could be making icing. You'd be setting the table. You could be aggressively showing up and getting prepared for that event that you need the cake for. Right. So there's, this is all part of how it works. And, you know, it's very simple when you think about it like that. It's no different than an athlete, bro. An athlete's gonna show up. Like, for example, the girl from the last question, all right? She shows up on day one. We got 365 days in the year, right? She wants to improve her skill set. She shows up on day one and just fucking. She works out for 16 hours that day. Shows up for day 216 hours. Shows up for day 316 hours. Shows up for day 416 hours. Doesn't show up for day five, because she's like, fuck this, okay? Whereas the person who shows up every single day for 8 hours and crushes exactly what they do, and they do that for 365 days straight. That motherfucker is going to be highly skilled because they allowed for time to do its part.How skilled can you get at a sport in one day, no matter how hard you work? Okay, what about a week? What about a year? Yeah, right?There we go.So, so. But if you were to sit on the bench for a year and just say, I'll be better because I'm going to be a year older, you. You're not going to be much better. Right? If any. So we have to understand it's work, skill, and time, and we have to understand the roles that those three things play in the end result that we're chasing. All right? If you. If you're lacking any of them, you won't win. And here's the other thing about aggressive patients. That skill, part of it, you develop while you're being aggressively patient. You see what I'm saying? Whereas if you were just patient, that skill would not grow. So show up every day, execute effectively, do that the next day, do that the next day, and understand that no matter how hard you work today and how hard you work tomorrow, and how hard you work the third day, it's still going to take time.I love it.That's aggressive patience in a nutshell.I absolutely love it, man. Well, guys. Andy, that was three.That was three, guys. All right, we got CTI tomorrow. Remember, go out this week. Be good, be kind, kick ass. Be a good example. We'll see you tomorrow.Went from sleeping on the flow now my jury box froze. Fuck up bowl, fuck up stove. Counted millions in a cold, bad bitch, booted swole. Got her own bank row, can't fold. Just a no headshot case. Close.

to be times in your life where you are as good as someone else and that someone else will have a relationship or they'll have a connection and be so for that reason, being as good is not good enough. Like you said in your question, you have to be the kind of person that someone says, oh, shit, they're fucking good. Okay? If you are not undeniably better than the person that you are competing with, you have to understand that you're running the risk of not getting that job. And that goes for, you know, varsity softball. That goes for college softball. That goes for your career and your whole entire life. If you are as good as someone else that you are competing with. You are running the risk of not getting the job because of some other aspect.

All right? So I would caution you to not look at these situations and say, oh, they only got that because of their dad, because you're creating a mental dialog. We're going to get into the mental part now. You're creating a mental dialog. That is an excuse. Making dialog. Okay? And you don't want to get in that habit. I'm not saying that you're out of line here, but what I am saying is you want to be very careful what you blame and who you blame when you don't get what you want, because ultimately it's you. The truth of the matter is, is had you practice and taken a thousand more reps than that girl who went to second base, you would have still been playing at second base, but she probably took the same amount of reps that you did, maybe even more. And that's why you're not there. And that's the truth. So let's bottom line the truth here. It's not about the dad. It's about how good you are. If you were undeniably better than her, do you think that they would have moved you to right field? No, they would have kept you there.

They would have put her in right field. All right. So that's the first thing that I want you to understand, and I appreciate you asking the question, but if you're going to ask a question here, you're going to get a straight answer. I don't care if you're five or if you're 50, all right? So you need to get better. That's the truth. Mentally, how do you get better? You have to adopt this mindset that I'm explaining to you that you have to be undeniably better in every area of your life. So, like. And what I mean by every area of your life, I mean as you go through life, and this could be your career, right? Let's say you're not going to become a professional softball player. Let's say you're going to become an accountant. You have to be a much better, higher skilled accountant than the person I would just commit to the work. I would, like, honestly assess, you know, like, let's just. Well, how many reps is Susie doing? Susie's doing a hundred ground balls. All right? You got to do 150, 50versus someone who's born with the natural skill, who doesn't appreciate it and doesn't learn that way of operating over the course of time. So a lot of times when you're younger, you look around, for example, like in business, people will say things like this, oh, that guy was born with rich parents. You know, he. His parents, he like, dude, when I was starting my business, bro, there was all kinds of people I competed with that had, like, you know, parents that invested a bunch of money in their business or, you know, they came from very wealthy circumstances, so they had options, right? But here's the problem. The problem is they had options, okay? And because they had options, they weren't able to fully dedicate themselves to becoming great at what they did. For me to compete with someone with more resources, in the beginning, I had to get better. They didn't have to get better. So ten fast forward ten years, I have all these skills that they don't have because they relied on their resources, and they're still where they are mentally in skillset that they were on day one.Now, who do you think wins ten years in? I'm running circles around these guys, right? Because I had to learn what it takes to compete. And the reason I had to learn what it takes to compete is because I wasn't born with all the bonuses that some of these other people were born with. So if you're that person and you're looking around right now and you're saying, man, I wasn't born with all good, because that's going to force you to develop the things that you're going to need to be successful the course of your life. The work ethic, the grit, the skill set, the ability to learn as you go, the adaptation, the ability to be resourceful, these are things that people who were born with blessings never learn because they rely on those blessings to get them through. So, like, ten years down the road, when you've dedicated yourself right now at 14 years old to, okay, I don't have the gifts that susie has, and I've got to put in twice as much work to get. If you adopt that mindset now, dude, at 25, ten years from now, you're going to be killing everybody because of the mindset that you developed.All right? So just. Just be okay and say, hey, I didn't get everything everybody else got, so I got to work harder.I love it. I absolutely love it. Good luck in your season, guys. Andy, question number three. Third and final question, guys. Dear Andy, I've been wrestling with your concept of aggressive patience recently, and I'm wondering if you can just dive deeper into it. I am 19, a full time employee, and a full time college sophomore studying software development. I'm ready to move out on my own and begin my career with an internship or an entry level position. My family, however, keeps telling me to stay at home, save my money and focus on my studies rather than getting an internship. My question is, in what situations should aggressive patients be used rather than moving forward and taking the next step? And also, if first form happens to be or have a software development internship available, let me know.Um, okay, look, I think you're misunderstanding the concept of aggressive patience. All right? There's. There's. There's three things that have to happen for you to become successful in anything, okay? You have to put in the work, you have to become skilled, and you have to allow time to do its part. And the analogy that I've always used for this is baking a cake, all right? You could want to bake a cake. And you go on Google and you say, oh, I'm gonna bake a cake. And you find this amazing cake recipe from Martha Stewart. It won all the awards, all right? And you're like, all right, that's the cake I wanna make. So you read the recipe out, and you put all the ingredients in the pan. You mix it up just like it says. Exactly like she says. It says 400 degrees for 40 minutes. So you're pouring all the ingredients in the bowl, you pour it in the pan, you're just about ready to put it in the oven, and you're like, fuck, dude, if I cook this thing for 800 degrees for 20 minutes, I could get it out twice as fast.All right? So you. You think you're real smart, so you turn the thing up to 800 degrees, and you set the timer for 20 minutes, and you throw that bitch in there, and then you go to pull it out. What is it? It's burnt to a crisp. It's smoking. Your smoke alarms going off. It smells like shit. And you're like, what the fuck is going on? All right, you did not obey one of the crucial elements of success, which is allowing time to do its part. Okay? We cannot rush time in terms of what it takes for us to materialize our outcome. In most situations now, there is a max velocity that we can achieve, but there is also things that we cannot substitute because they take time. For example, it takes time in business for a customer to become acclimated to your brand. It might take 510 2030 impressions before they ever think about trying your brand out. That doesn't happen in 1 minute just because you want it to. It takes time. Okay? When we think about what that means, that means that we have to be patient. We have to allow time to do its job.But the problem is, is that when we say to people, hey, I need you to be patient. Here, usually what they do when you tell them that they have to be patient is they stop doing the work and they believe that time will just bring them the result without any of the work. And this is where the aggressive part comes in. All right? So you have to understand that it's going to take time, but you have to also understand that every single day, while you're waiting for time to materialize, you have to show up and you have to give Max effort and Max execution. All right? So that's why it's called aggressive patience. It's aggressive in daily execution, but also mindful that we have to be patient. And this is the reality of success. You have to have work, you have to have skill, and you have to have patience. And if you do not have those three things, you cannot win. All right? And a lot of people say you don't need patience. You need to be aggressive. They're saying the same thing I'm saying, but you can't out aggressive time in certain scenarios.Okay? So all you can do is you could show up every day, you can execute perfectly, and the time will be what it is. We can collapse time as much as possible by following the method of aggressive patience. But a lot of guys will tell you, oh, you just need to be patient. And a lot of young people, young in the entrepreneurship game misunderstand that. And they think that means just wait. And that's not what it means. When I say be patient to all of you, what do you think? Automatically you probably think, just wait. Okay, and that that is not good enough. You have to come in every single day, kick ass, execute at a high degree, execute at a high level, and also understand that it's going to take time, and that's what aggressive patience is about. So, um, and it's a required element of success. You can't get around utilizing it.Yeah, yeah. And so, so what you're saying is like, okay, you put that cake in the oven, you set at the right time, it's going to be 40 minutes. You can't speed that time up. You can't stop. It can slow it down.Right.But there's other things that you could also be doing while that cakes.Yeah. You could be making the icing, you could be cleaning the kids. Yeah. You can be clean in the kitchen. You could be making icing. You'd be setting the table. You could be aggressively showing up and getting prepared for that event that you need the cake for. Right. So there's, this is all part of how it works. And, you know, it's very simple when you think about it like that. It's no different than an athlete, bro. An athlete's gonna show up. Like, for example, the girl from the last question, all right? She shows up on day one. We got 365 days in the year, right? She wants to improve her skill set. She shows up on day one and just fucking. She works out for 16 hours that day. Shows up for day 216 hours. Shows up for day 316 hours. Shows up for day 416 hours. Doesn't show up for day five, because she's like, fuck this, okay? Whereas the person who shows up every single day for 8 hours and crushes exactly what they do, and they do that for 365 days straight. That motherfucker is going to be highly skilled because they allowed for time to do its part.How skilled can you get at a sport in one day, no matter how hard you work? Okay, what about a week? What about a year? Yeah, right?There we go.So, so. But if you were to sit on the bench for a year and just say, I'll be better because I'm going to be a year older, you. You're not going to be much better. Right? If any. So we have to understand it's work, skill, and time, and we have to understand the roles that those three things play in the end result that we're chasing. All right? If you. If you're lacking any of them, you won't win. And here's the other thing about aggressive patients. That skill, part of it, you develop while you're being aggressively patient. You see what I'm saying? Whereas if you were just patient, that skill would not grow. So show up every day, execute effectively, do that the next day, do that the next day, and understand that no matter how hard you work today and how hard you work tomorrow, and how hard you work the third day, it's still going to take time.I love it.That's aggressive patience in a nutshell.I absolutely love it, man. Well, guys. Andy, that was three.That was three, guys. All right, we got CTI tomorrow. Remember, go out this week. Be good, be kind, kick ass. Be a good example. We'll see you tomorrow.Went from sleeping on the flow now my jury box froze. Fuck up bowl, fuck up stove. Counted millions in a cold, bad bitch, booted swole. Got her own bank row, can't fold. Just a no headshot case. Close.

I would just commit to the work. I would, like, honestly assess, you know, like, let's just. Well, how many reps is Susie doing? Susie's doing a hundred ground balls. All right? You got to do 150, 50versus someone who's born with the natural skill, who doesn't appreciate it and doesn't learn that way of operating over the course of time. So a lot of times when you're younger, you look around, for example, like in business, people will say things like this, oh, that guy was born with rich parents. You know, he. His parents, he like, dude, when I was starting my business, bro, there was all kinds of people I competed with that had, like, you know, parents that invested a bunch of money in their business or, you know, they came from very wealthy circumstances, so they had options, right? But here's the problem. The problem is they had options, okay? And because they had options, they weren't able to fully dedicate themselves to becoming great at what they did. For me to compete with someone with more resources, in the beginning, I had to get better. They didn't have to get better. So ten fast forward ten years, I have all these skills that they don't have because they relied on their resources, and they're still where they are mentally in skillset that they were on day one.Now, who do you think wins ten years in? I'm running circles around these guys, right? Because I had to learn what it takes to compete. And the reason I had to learn what it takes to compete is because I wasn't born with all the bonuses that some of these other people were born with. So if you're that person and you're looking around right now and you're saying, man, I wasn't born with all good, because that's going to force you to develop the things that you're going to need to be successful the course of your life. The work ethic, the grit, the skill set, the ability to learn as you go, the adaptation, the ability to be resourceful, these are things that people who were born with blessings never learn because they rely on those blessings to get them through. So, like, ten years down the road, when you've dedicated yourself right now at 14 years old to, okay, I don't have the gifts that susie has, and I've got to put in twice as much work to get. If you adopt that mindset now, dude, at 25, ten years from now, you're going to be killing everybody because of the mindset that you developed.All right? So just. Just be okay and say, hey, I didn't get everything everybody else got, so I got to work harder.I love it. I absolutely love it. Good luck in your season, guys. Andy, question number three. Third and final question, guys. Dear Andy, I've been wrestling with your concept of aggressive patience recently, and I'm wondering if you can just dive deeper into it. I am 19, a full time employee, and a full time college sophomore studying software development. I'm ready to move out on my own and begin my career with an internship or an entry level position. My family, however, keeps telling me to stay at home, save my money and focus on my studies rather than getting an internship. My question is, in what situations should aggressive patients be used rather than moving forward and taking the next step? And also, if first form happens to be or have a software development internship available, let me know.Um, okay, look, I think you're misunderstanding the concept of aggressive patience. All right? There's. There's. There's three things that have to happen for you to become successful in anything, okay? You have to put in the work, you have to become skilled, and you have to allow time to do its part. And the analogy that I've always used for this is baking a cake, all right? You could want to bake a cake. And you go on Google and you say, oh, I'm gonna bake a cake. And you find this amazing cake recipe from Martha Stewart. It won all the awards, all right? And you're like, all right, that's the cake I wanna make. So you read the recipe out, and you put all the ingredients in the pan. You mix it up just like it says. Exactly like she says. It says 400 degrees for 40 minutes. So you're pouring all the ingredients in the bowl, you pour it in the pan, you're just about ready to put it in the oven, and you're like, fuck, dude, if I cook this thing for 800 degrees for 20 minutes, I could get it out twice as fast.All right? So you. You think you're real smart, so you turn the thing up to 800 degrees, and you set the timer for 20 minutes, and you throw that bitch in there, and then you go to pull it out. What is it? It's burnt to a crisp. It's smoking. Your smoke alarms going off. It smells like shit. And you're like, what the fuck is going on? All right, you did not obey one of the crucial elements of success, which is allowing time to do its part. Okay? We cannot rush time in terms of what it takes for us to materialize our outcome. In most situations now, there is a max velocity that we can achieve, but there is also things that we cannot substitute because they take time. For example, it takes time in business for a customer to become acclimated to your brand. It might take 510 2030 impressions before they ever think about trying your brand out. That doesn't happen in 1 minute just because you want it to. It takes time. Okay? When we think about what that means, that means that we have to be patient. We have to allow time to do its job.But the problem is, is that when we say to people, hey, I need you to be patient. Here, usually what they do when you tell them that they have to be patient is they stop doing the work and they believe that time will just bring them the result without any of the work. And this is where the aggressive part comes in. All right? So you have to understand that it's going to take time, but you have to also understand that every single day, while you're waiting for time to materialize, you have to show up and you have to give Max effort and Max execution. All right? So that's why it's called aggressive patience. It's aggressive in daily execution, but also mindful that we have to be patient. And this is the reality of success. You have to have work, you have to have skill, and you have to have patience. And if you do not have those three things, you cannot win. All right? And a lot of people say you don't need patience. You need to be aggressive. They're saying the same thing I'm saying, but you can't out aggressive time in certain scenarios.Okay? So all you can do is you could show up every day, you can execute perfectly, and the time will be what it is. We can collapse time as much as possible by following the method of aggressive patience. But a lot of guys will tell you, oh, you just need to be patient. And a lot of young people, young in the entrepreneurship game misunderstand that. And they think that means just wait. And that's not what it means. When I say be patient to all of you, what do you think? Automatically you probably think, just wait. Okay, and that that is not good enough. You have to come in every single day, kick ass, execute at a high degree, execute at a high level, and also understand that it's going to take time, and that's what aggressive patience is about. So, um, and it's a required element of success. You can't get around utilizing it.Yeah, yeah. And so, so what you're saying is like, okay, you put that cake in the oven, you set at the right time, it's going to be 40 minutes. You can't speed that time up. You can't stop. It can slow it down.Right.But there's other things that you could also be doing while that cakes.Yeah. You could be making the icing, you could be cleaning the kids. Yeah. You can be clean in the kitchen. You could be making icing. You'd be setting the table. You could be aggressively showing up and getting prepared for that event that you need the cake for. Right. So there's, this is all part of how it works. And, you know, it's very simple when you think about it like that. It's no different than an athlete, bro. An athlete's gonna show up. Like, for example, the girl from the last question, all right? She shows up on day one. We got 365 days in the year, right? She wants to improve her skill set. She shows up on day one and just fucking. She works out for 16 hours that day. Shows up for day 216 hours. Shows up for day 316 hours. Shows up for day 416 hours. Doesn't show up for day five, because she's like, fuck this, okay? Whereas the person who shows up every single day for 8 hours and crushes exactly what they do, and they do that for 365 days straight. That motherfucker is going to be highly skilled because they allowed for time to do its part.How skilled can you get at a sport in one day, no matter how hard you work? Okay, what about a week? What about a year? Yeah, right?There we go.So, so. But if you were to sit on the bench for a year and just say, I'll be better because I'm going to be a year older, you. You're not going to be much better. Right? If any. So we have to understand it's work, skill, and time, and we have to understand the roles that those three things play in the end result that we're chasing. All right? If you. If you're lacking any of them, you won't win. And here's the other thing about aggressive patients. That skill, part of it, you develop while you're being aggressively patient. You see what I'm saying? Whereas if you were just patient, that skill would not grow. So show up every day, execute effectively, do that the next day, do that the next day, and understand that no matter how hard you work today and how hard you work tomorrow, and how hard you work the third day, it's still going to take time.I love it.That's aggressive patience in a nutshell.I absolutely love it, man. Well, guys. Andy, that was three.That was three, guys. All right, we got CTI tomorrow. Remember, go out this week. Be good, be kind, kick ass. Be a good example. We'll see you tomorrow.Went from sleeping on the flow now my jury box froze. Fuck up bowl, fuck up stove. Counted millions in a cold, bad bitch, booted swole. Got her own bank row, can't fold. Just a no headshot case. Close.

versus someone who's born with the natural skill, who doesn't appreciate it and doesn't learn that way of operating over the course of time. So a lot of times when you're younger, you look around, for example, like in business, people will say things like this, oh, that guy was born with rich parents. You know, he. His parents, he like, dude, when I was starting my business, bro, there was all kinds of people I competed with that had, like, you know, parents that invested a bunch of money in their business or, you know, they came from very wealthy circumstances, so they had options, right? But here's the problem. The problem is they had options, okay? And because they had options, they weren't able to fully dedicate themselves to becoming great at what they did. For me to compete with someone with more resources, in the beginning, I had to get better. They didn't have to get better. So ten fast forward ten years, I have all these skills that they don't have because they relied on their resources, and they're still where they are mentally in skillset that they were on day one.

Now, who do you think wins ten years in? I'm running circles around these guys, right? Because I had to learn what it takes to compete. And the reason I had to learn what it takes to compete is because I wasn't born with all the bonuses that some of these other people were born with. So if you're that person and you're looking around right now and you're saying, man, I wasn't born with all good, because that's going to force you to develop the things that you're going to need to be successful the course of your life. The work ethic, the grit, the skill set, the ability to learn as you go, the adaptation, the ability to be resourceful, these are things that people who were born with blessings never learn because they rely on those blessings to get them through. So, like, ten years down the road, when you've dedicated yourself right now at 14 years old to, okay, I don't have the gifts that susie has, and I've got to put in twice as much work to get. If you adopt that mindset now, dude, at 25, ten years from now, you're going to be killing everybody because of the mindset that you developed.

All right? So just. Just be okay and say, hey, I didn't get everything everybody else got, so I got to work harder.

I love it. I absolutely love it. Good luck in your season, guys. Andy, question number three. Third and final question, guys. Dear Andy, I've been wrestling with your concept of aggressive patience recently, and I'm wondering if you can just dive deeper into it. I am 19, a full time employee, and a full time college sophomore studying software development. I'm ready to move out on my own and begin my career with an internship or an entry level position. My family, however, keeps telling me to stay at home, save my money and focus on my studies rather than getting an internship. My question is, in what situations should aggressive patients be used rather than moving forward and taking the next step? And also, if first form happens to be or have a software development internship available, let me know.

Um, okay, look, I think you're misunderstanding the concept of aggressive patience. All right? There's. There's. There's three things that have to happen for you to become successful in anything, okay? You have to put in the work, you have to become skilled, and you have to allow time to do its part. And the analogy that I've always used for this is baking a cake, all right? You could want to bake a cake. And you go on Google and you say, oh, I'm gonna bake a cake. And you find this amazing cake recipe from Martha Stewart. It won all the awards, all right? And you're like, all right, that's the cake I wanna make. So you read the recipe out, and you put all the ingredients in the pan. You mix it up just like it says. Exactly like she says. It says 400 degrees for 40 minutes. So you're pouring all the ingredients in the bowl, you pour it in the pan, you're just about ready to put it in the oven, and you're like, fuck, dude, if I cook this thing for 800 degrees for 20 minutes, I could get it out twice as fast.

All right? So you. You think you're real smart, so you turn the thing up to 800 degrees, and you set the timer for 20 minutes, and you throw that bitch in there, and then you go to pull it out. What is it? It's burnt to a crisp. It's smoking. Your smoke alarms going off. It smells like shit. And you're like, what the fuck is going on? All right, you did not obey one of the crucial elements of success, which is allowing time to do its part. Okay? We cannot rush time in terms of what it takes for us to materialize our outcome. In most situations now, there is a max velocity that we can achieve, but there is also things that we cannot substitute because they take time. For example, it takes time in business for a customer to become acclimated to your brand. It might take 510 2030 impressions before they ever think about trying your brand out. That doesn't happen in 1 minute just because you want it to. It takes time. Okay? When we think about what that means, that means that we have to be patient. We have to allow time to do its job.

But the problem is, is that when we say to people, hey, I need you to be patient. Here, usually what they do when you tell them that they have to be patient is they stop doing the work and they believe that time will just bring them the result without any of the work. And this is where the aggressive part comes in. All right? So you have to understand that it's going to take time, but you have to also understand that every single day, while you're waiting for time to materialize, you have to show up and you have to give Max effort and Max execution. All right? So that's why it's called aggressive patience. It's aggressive in daily execution, but also mindful that we have to be patient. And this is the reality of success. You have to have work, you have to have skill, and you have to have patience. And if you do not have those three things, you cannot win. All right? And a lot of people say you don't need patience. You need to be aggressive. They're saying the same thing I'm saying, but you can't out aggressive time in certain scenarios.

Okay? So all you can do is you could show up every day, you can execute perfectly, and the time will be what it is. We can collapse time as much as possible by following the method of aggressive patience. But a lot of guys will tell you, oh, you just need to be patient. And a lot of young people, young in the entrepreneurship game misunderstand that. And they think that means just wait. And that's not what it means. When I say be patient to all of you, what do you think? Automatically you probably think, just wait. Okay, and that that is not good enough. You have to come in every single day, kick ass, execute at a high degree, execute at a high level, and also understand that it's going to take time, and that's what aggressive patience is about. So, um, and it's a required element of success. You can't get around utilizing it.

Yeah, yeah. And so, so what you're saying is like, okay, you put that cake in the oven, you set at the right time, it's going to be 40 minutes. You can't speed that time up. You can't stop. It can slow it down.

Right.

But there's other things that you could also be doing while that cakes.

Yeah. You could be making the icing, you could be cleaning the kids. Yeah. You can be clean in the kitchen. You could be making icing. You'd be setting the table. You could be aggressively showing up and getting prepared for that event that you need the cake for. Right. So there's, this is all part of how it works. And, you know, it's very simple when you think about it like that. It's no different than an athlete, bro. An athlete's gonna show up. Like, for example, the girl from the last question, all right? She shows up on day one. We got 365 days in the year, right? She wants to improve her skill set. She shows up on day one and just fucking. She works out for 16 hours that day. Shows up for day 216 hours. Shows up for day 316 hours. Shows up for day 416 hours. Doesn't show up for day five, because she's like, fuck this, okay? Whereas the person who shows up every single day for 8 hours and crushes exactly what they do, and they do that for 365 days straight. That motherfucker is going to be highly skilled because they allowed for time to do its part.

How skilled can you get at a sport in one day, no matter how hard you work? Okay, what about a week? What about a year? Yeah, right?

There we go.

So, so. But if you were to sit on the bench for a year and just say, I'll be better because I'm going to be a year older, you. You're not going to be much better. Right? If any. So we have to understand it's work, skill, and time, and we have to understand the roles that those three things play in the end result that we're chasing. All right? If you. If you're lacking any of them, you won't win. And here's the other thing about aggressive patients. That skill, part of it, you develop while you're being aggressively patient. You see what I'm saying? Whereas if you were just patient, that skill would not grow. So show up every day, execute effectively, do that the next day, do that the next day, and understand that no matter how hard you work today and how hard you work tomorrow, and how hard you work the third day, it's still going to take time.

I love it.

That's aggressive patience in a nutshell.

I absolutely love it, man. Well, guys. Andy, that was three.

That was three, guys. All right, we got CTI tomorrow. Remember, go out this week. Be good, be kind, kick ass. Be a good example. We'll see you tomorrow.

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