Transcript of The relationship advice will change everything | Mel Robbins #Shorts

I once heard someone say, The secret to a happy marriage is to marry someone who's happy. The truth is, you cannot make another human being happy. You can make them a cup of coffee, you can make some reservations, you can make the bed that you both sleep in, but you cannot make someone else happy. You can also not change somebody or force someone to grow. The best thing that you can do for your relationship is to stop focusing on what your partner is doing and focus on taking the actions that make you a better person, that make you a happier person. People only change when they feel like it. When you pressure another person to change or to grow in the ways that you are, your pressure doesn't create change. It creates resistance to change. As you grow, if your partner isn't, there will come a time where you're not You're not going to question your commitment, you're going to question your compatibility. You're going to start to ask yourself, Can I be in a relationship with someone who is exactly as they are and not willing to lean into life and grow? Think about it as two separate things.

You should always, always, always be investing in your own growth and your own happiness, because the happier you are, the more happiness you're going to bring into your relationship. But there may come a time start to question whether or not you're compatible, and that's a completely different thing.