Transcript of How to respond to gaslighting | Mel Robbins #Shorts

How do you handle someone who's gaslighting you? There is one simple phrase that I use, that whoever's listening can use, over and over, I see things differently, or I remember things differently. Period. You can say that phrase as often as you need it. Somebody wants to come at you and they're gaslighting and trying to challenge your truth. I remember things differently. They want to do it again because you're not going with them? I remember things differently. In my world, people who are trying to gaslight are trying to be the laser and you the cat. They're just trying to make you go certain directions everywhere but the truth. To avoid gaslighting, you just need to stand still and stand firm. I remember things differently. That often will do everything that they don't want you to do because it's just not giving them the power. You feel like just because they dug a hole, you have to fill it. Just let them dig their own hole. Let them fall in it. Let them step into it. You've ever been in those arguments where the person goes, Wait, wait, wait, and they have to go the whole timeline of everything?

You said this, and then I said this. When they do that, often they will tweak that timeline to present the facts most favorable to them, expecting you to say, yes, that's exactly what happened. I remember things differently. You don't have to explain that. You don't need to justify that because they're not going to ask you for it because you're just not going with them.