Transcript of From Dishwasher to 1,000+ Units — Then Nearly Losing It All ft. Jarek Tadla | Coffeez

I heard his voice, and it says, Dude, you have absolutely everything you can imagine. And you want to take your own life? You're helping so many other people. You cannot help yourself. And I'm not here right now. Thirty seconds later, Jessica, my girlfriend, comes into the room and says word for word. I'm like, Are you kidding me? And she opened the blinds, You're done. You're coming out. You're done. You're not sick. You're good. You got to get out of the Welcome to another episode of Coffees.

Yadek, it's a pleasure having you. We've had some great discussions before the show. What you've told me so far has been truly, truly inspirational. Coming from Poland to America, not knowing the English language, how did you come to this country and really break through into entrepreneurship so quickly?

It's funny. I didn't. Everything happened unconsciously because when I got here, I started washing dishes and going through school and doing everything. I truly did it. No. My entire life, I was always doing something on my own, selling bottles, looking for little deals when I was in Poland, always looking for something. But I didn't all have the skill. When I moved here, and if anybody's listening to this, I wanted to know one conversation, even the conversation I had right now, one sentence changed my life. Because I was selling my cars and I was buying cars at the auctions. I was working full-time as a dishwasher. Then I was going to school, to college. Then I was buying and selling cars after the accident with the salvage title. Selling them for... Buying them cost me around five grand, selling them for six grand. On each car, I make a $1,000. There was always a real estate bag in my head, but it was just a real estate. If I buy a home for 50,000 and sell it for 60, I make 10 grand, right? Instead of a thousand. There was one conversation, one sentence to change my entire life.

One sentence. There was a family of my girlfriend at that time, and they said, Yeah, they have a four-plex. They live in one of them, and they rent the other three. I'm like, What? Say it again. Yeah, we have a four-plex, and those three people pay for our rent. That's it. I got home. I told my girlfriend, Hey, by the way, we're getting married. Next year, we're moving to Colorado. Because I was in school in Upstate New York, Rochester. If anybody knows where it is, it's a hateful place. It's miserable. It's always raining over there. And moved to Colorado by my first fourplex. Owner occupied. Then a few months later, I bought another fourplex, owner occupied. But the first one, I bought it, I have no idea what I'm doing. I bought it with $50,000. I sold all my cars, borrow money, and bought my first fourplex. The second fourplex, six months later, I bought Owner occupied, and I only pay five grand. I took 97% financing. The third one, I bought using my X credit, and that's how it started. Those three, four plexes, then it turned to 16, 12, or 17 units, then 50 units, then 100 units, 200 units, 500 units, and it just took off.

Wow. So you've just been buying multi-unit properties for decades.

Yeah. But I remember, I'm a long-term holder. I'm not a flipper. I'm a long-term holder. I buy and hold.

The margins on those aren't much, though. You're only making after your mortgage and everything.

But what happens when you buy something and then you hold it, it pays out. Because what happened? The interest goes up, the interest goes up, and the rent goes up and the equity grows, and then you just take the money free out, equity without taxes, and you're just reinvesting, reinvesting. And then you have, if anybody's listening right now have a good track record, Then people will throw you money. There's so many people out there, they don't know what to do with money. Attorneys, doctors, people that are successful in their own businesses, they truly don't know how to turn money into more money. If you have a track record and you know how to leverage money, I mean...

This guy's the limit.

This guy's the limit.

Yeah. Wow. So what was that 21-year-old version of you? You weren't an entrepreneur. You were just an immigrant.

I didn't even know the word, brother. You know what I'm I learned the word? Maybe when I was 40. I didn't even know what it means. I think everybody does... That's what you have to do. You have to just be good in business. I always treated my business like work. I was. I was sedating with work. Everybody thinks sedating is a drug, alcohol. No, I was sedating with work because I worked like 20, 22 hours a day. Because that's the thing. I was good at something. Suddenly, I was good at something and I found completely a high out of it until I completely... You know what? I have enough. I think I have enough. I was waiting. 2008 came in. In 2008, I I just bought a lot of properties, 10 cents on the dollar. I won lottery. I won lottery when I moved to United States, getting a green card, and I won lottery with 2008. When Lehman brought us out of business, I just bought more and more. In 2010, it's like, that's a second time. I'm like, I'm done. I retire. I don't do this again. Then two kids, three kids, four kids, I'm going to be a dad.

I'm going to be a dad. That didn't pay out. That was not enough. I was built for more than that. I started doing iron Ironman. When I started doing Ironman, then I started dating with workouts. But by rules of society, you're doing something good because it's like, Wow, Jarek is successful. Jarek is doing this. But the only thing, I was escaping truly myself. I didn't want to deal with the demons and all the not enough, the voices, the inner dialog that I couldn't control. I need more and more to prove the whole world that I'm enough, that I'm love. And guess what? It never happened. In 2020, When COVID happened, I got divorced and COVID happened. Of course, in the COVID, I knew about COVID that is going to happen in October because they asked me to move my money. When COVID happened, I just went back to work. I started buying more real estate. In 2021, I completely crushed. I'm on the top, on the top of the mountains. I'm mentally strong. I'm emotionally strong. I found a connection with God. I don't drink. I don't sedate with drugs or I found the love of my life.

I built the relationships. I'm physically fit and I'm broken inside. I got sick three days, six days. Suddenly, I end up in my bed for 40, 40 days, and it's time to go. The demon got me. I almost got on my boat and did the last dive. But I don't wish anybody to go through the pain.

What was the catalyst for you to have that spiritual awakening?

When I was laying in bed and when I was going through, there was a lot of wake-up calls were out of niches touching on me. I call it the voice. I have the good angel, the bad angel. But when I almost commit suicide, I heard voice and it says, Dude, you have absolutely everything you can imagine. You want to take your own life? You're helping so many other people. You cannot help yourself. I'm not shitting you right now. Thirty seconds later, Jessica, my girlfriend, comes into the room and says, word for word, I'm like, Are you kidding me? She opened the blinds. You're done. You're coming out. You're done. You're not sick. You're good. You got to get out of the bed. I'm like, I got to share my journey. My entire life, I was looking for validation from outside sources to get successes, to get the kudos, and I'm empty on the inside. If I have it, none of the hardship happened, none of the death, none of the betrayal, none of the loss, none of the financial struggles. I have everything, and I go through depression and suicidal thoughts. What about people that truly, truly have a reason to to go through it?

Yeah, they have... But you have nothing.

Exactly. They're happy. I started looking for the journey for the happiness and follow my voice. But it took me probably two years to recover from all this stuff. You know what I'm telling? That I'm like, I'm like, alcoholic, I'm workaholic, and now I'm a recovering depression holic. So it's like, you know what I mean? Everything I've done, it was always to more, more, more. I just realized now the more is less.

If we could just get our life to be more simple, we'd be more happy. The more we complicate, the more that we desire things that we don't need to impress people that don't care about us.

That's really. But you know what? A lot of entrepreneurs Because that was my bubble, we are people-pleasers. Yes, we do this for ourselves. But we just do it just this for employees. This is for the kids. This is for wives. We do everything for everybody. We don't do it for ourselves. Can you imagine, I'm a 53-year-old man that every single day I date myself? I truly take myself on a date, and it's my time.

How do you date yourself? I'm curious for myself.

I truly like this is an hour, nobody can interact. I I do the phone and I stay with my own task with myself. I don't run the errands. You journal, you work out. No, I do that anyway. That's what happened is when you stillness and boredom for entrepreneur is the best shit ever. But because we cannot. We think we can only work with chaos. Chaos is our friend. No, chaos is not our friend. We hate to be bored and we hate to be still. This was the best idea, the best creative it comes, and we feel uncomfortable. When I sit down first time, when you're successful, you have a lot of enemies. I have a deal that went sour in American Republic, and the guy got me on the red notice, Interpol notice. I'm flying to Panama. When I land it, there's like, Come with us. I'm like, For what? I'm like, Do you have a business in American Republic? I'm like, Yeah, I do. I just came back last week. Well, there's a problem. We have a red notice, Interpol red notice. I'm like, Okay. I didn't do shit. They stopped me for the interview for 24 hours, which 24 hours ended up 30 hours in prison.

Not in a prison. It's like an airport jail. Can you imagine being 50 years old, first time in my life, I was alone for 30 hours. The first two hours, I was pissed as hell. I could buy this passport. Fuck those assholes. They don't know who the hell I am. Then I just spend the time with myself. When I got home, Jessica was like, How are you doing? And crying all this stuff. My kids, Dad, Dad, Dad. I'm like, This was the best time in my life. First time in my life, I was alone without any devices, without anything. Just sit with myself with my own thoughts. My whole life when finally the meditations, everything came in, the prayers, and I finally connected with myself. We don't give ourselves a time. When we get bored, when we get sick, we always want to do something, especially entrepreneurs. I'm not useful. If I don't do anything, I'm not contributing to the society. Shut the fuck up. Sit with yourself. Listen. Be bored. Be still. Talk to you. Spend the time with your own thoughts. Find out who you truly are, why you're doing all this stuff for.

Because there's no amount of money that It's going to make you enough. There's always somebody with a bigger yacht, with a bigger jet, with a bigger helicopter, with more houses, more businesses, with pretty wife. It's, Stop. You truly got everything within you and just listen to the voice. Listen to who you truly, truly, who truly you are.

What you're saying resonates so much with me because I am that guy who cannot sit by myself. I just have to be stimulated all the time. You sitting?

20 minutes, though.

The only stillness I get is when I podcast and I get to interview someone. I obviously have my phone for the questions, but I'm on the go. I'm in multiple businesses, podcast, content, this, that, the other, four kids, activities. And they're all in multiple sports. It's like running a million miles an hour. But when I do get five minutes to sit with myself and reflect. When I drive home, I don't put music on. It's like therapy just to just be in silence. And there's still just a million sounds in my brain. But for an hour of just pure stillness, which is an incredible goal for me, that would be life-changing.

It doesn't have to start with an hour and get a goosebumps. It doesn't have to be an hour, brother. Because what happened, you know how to build new routines. It can start with 10 minutes, 10 minutes become 20, 20 becomes 30. But it's uncomfortable. Telling grown-ass men to sit with yourself like, What the hell is wrong with you? The thoughts are coming. I'm telling you everything, who the hell come up with this shit? When my coach first time sent me to the... Do you have any homes, your favorite homes? I'm like, There's a beach home that I absolutely love it. He said, Go there for three days and sit there without anything. What are you talking? Three days. Dude, I cannot find five minutes. You know the bullshit story we told ourselves? Dude, you have no idea about my schedule. I don't have five minutes. He goes, That's the problem. That's the problem. What do you mean you don't have five minutes? All the stuff that I created in my head is like, that's what I have to do. This is this, this is this. And guess what? We cannot multitask. If the men are listening to this, we men cannot multitask.

It's over. We cannot walk and chew the gum because we buy the tongue. We cannot. But guess what? That's what we're doing. So we don't do nothing. We're not present with our kids. We're not present. That's why so many divorces. We're not present with our kids. We're not present with our wives. That's why we're not present with the employees. We're not present with ourselves. We're not present with anybody. When you connect with yourself, brother, there's nothing better. It's like you're overflowing. But what happened is our bucket is getting empty and empty here, and you cannot satisfy with all this money. Oh, we're not a business. Oh, we're not a book, and not a title, and not a metal. It cannot. You get empty and you break like me.

How do you fill your cup? I was having the same discussion with someone at the dinner table two days ago, it's like this Gen Z cannot work in customer service because they have nothing left in their cup. They're so stimulated by phones and all the things around them. By the time they go to interact with humans, they're just like, they don't know how.

Well, you know what happiness is? We want the instant gratification. Here, what happened is when you want the instant gratification, you're scrolling the phone. That's an instant gratification. Having a drink, getting a line of cocaine. That dopamine level, it hits so much. The happiness when the dopamine level is for the next 20, 30, 50 years. That's what the happiness. But we We're not patient. We want everything now. You want a car? Let's buy a car. Well, you cannot afford it. Well, fucking, let's get a credit. Let's buy a home. Let's buy a business. Everything, and we over leverage ourselves financially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Yeah, I got the time I got the time for this. Read the Bible. Yeah, I got the time for this. What about the kids? We're trying to rush it. Slower, brother is faster. Try to build a business when you slow down. It's next level. Try to build a relationship with the wife or with the new partner or with the kids. When you take, when you slow down, it's amazing. But the problem, we got to find connection with ourself. I could not connect with myself I could not connect it with God, so I could not connect with the wife.

I'm not the guy that gives you a marriage advice. I'm a third one. I definitely have. I'm zero for three, brother, so I don't have a good track record. You know what I mean? Even my own kids stop talking to me for a year or two. I'm not the guy to give you advices on that. I'm the work in progress. I'm the work in progress.

We're all work in progress. But your progress is further than mine, and your wisdom is much more profound than mine right now. It's like, I'm all in on listening to you and applying it.

It's awareness and a conscience level because we are energy and we got to raise it. You know what I mean? Having the awareness and understanding that we the energy and we have to connect with ourselves, it's everybody will benefit from you. Everybody. You guys will love to be around you.

How do you slow down? How do you slow down when you're fed so much from society and you have You're this high performer and you're a big CEO and you got all this other stuff and everybody's asking for this and the other and you got kids and this. How do you slow down?

Boundaries. Look at this shit, the boundaries. But if you don't have a boundary with yourself because you never give a time to yourself, how can you give a boundary to somebody else? We want to give, give, give. There's nothing else to give. Boundaries. I didn't even know what it means. I didn't even know what it means. The problem is I was never present. Everybody need to have access to me. My phone's got to have access to me. This is like we are addicts. Show me any successful person, I can I can guarantee you he's an addict. I can guarantee you that. It's an addictive personality. That's why I don't drink anymore. That's why I don't do drug anymore. Because I start drinking very late in my life, very late. I already retired twice. I knew If I go this way, it's not going to work. I mean, now I come to LA, and of course, I'm in LA, so let's do podcast because this is my new mission. I know I'm an addict. Now I want to serve. I want to help 8 billion people to realize that the inner wealth that we create our outer world through the inner world.

But we don't take care of ourselves. That's why so much toxicity, so much hate in this world, so much killing, so many more. We are divided by the politics, by the religion, by men, women, by transgender, by color, by social status, by financial status. I know that they, we just want to be loved and connect with other people. That's what we're born here for. But we're playing this comparison game. Social media is the biggest gift, brother. And guess what? We're just looking, we're scrolling. I can look at the algorithm and I know who you're going to be three, five years from now. I tell my kids, Tell me what you read. Give me your routines. Tell me, show me what you're looking on it. Because social media is the biggest gift if you know how to use it.

How would you recommend using it based on your own Well, mostly, I give you a different...

I will go back to the question, and it's a true story. And love you, brother. I know you know who I'm talking about. I have my amazing friend. He's my attorney, right? And he's in Colombia. Something through my feet came. Our feet is like, Colombia, we don't say papa, we say papacito, cocaine, drugs, alcohol, blah, blah, blah. What goes to Colombia, stay in Colombia. He moved to Colombia. I saw the clip and I sent it to him. I said, Joe, it's like, Oh, that's why you're in Colombia? Brother, for the next three days, my whole algorithm changed. I have only Colombia, I have cocaine, I have alcohol, and all this stuff. But that's what we do to ourselves. We got to change the algorithm with us. What task process we put in, what What love we put in, what food we put in, what drink we put in, what the exercise we put in, what boundaries we put in, and the stillness, and how do we treat ourselves? I'm a 53 years old man that goes in the mirror every day like, I love you, motherfucker. I'm going to take care of you today. I neglect you for so many years.

I will fucking take care of you. I will put a good thoughts in you, loveable thoughts. I will talk to God. I will put a faith in you.

You do that every day, just affirmation?

Every single day. Every single day. If you are full, everybody will benefit. Can you imagine running on the empty tank in a car and you're on the highway? It's like it's a traffic and there's nothing. Like, Fuck, fuck, fuck. How am I going to get there?

I don't know how to get full. I don't. I don't know how to fill my cup. It's like, especially after you get a divorce and you're searching again for meaning because I'm like you. It's like, here I am. It's like, success, money, all that. We got that. Now, here I am, building a brand, podcasting. It's like a totally different venture, not paying. It's like my contribution to society, trying to impact the world, yet you're still trying to fill your cup.

Because see, what happened is when you get to divorce, like when that happened, right to me, divorce happened six years ago, right? You have to understand my My definition of love, it was my wife and my kids. That was my definition. Now suddenly, I'm 48 years old man, and it was taken away.

Forty-eight.

It was taken away from me.

Yeah.

Anything I ever put a vocabulary in love, that's what is that I need somebody to love. The little Yarek was, Fuck you, asshole. What about me? Where are you going to take care of me? But it took me years after divorce, after all this stuff, to find out that I'm the most important. If you tell people selfish, it's a bad word. You know what? Maybe. But if you don't care of yourself, you're not going to be able to care for anybody else. Love is loving you. You are love. You are abundance. You don't need anything from the outside. Anything can be taken away, not you. If there are banks, there's bankruptcy, there's a hardship, anything's going on, the kids, the wife, you lose close one. It's normal. It's going to happen. But nobody can take away you.

You contextualize it in a way that's so understandable. It's like your wife can leave you. Your kids will leave at some point. Your business partner leaves. Everybody moves on.

And it will But you don't move on. God will send you the obstacles to teach you a lesson. God loves you. We are on this work to serve. We're not entitled to shit. We already got our body. We're already alive. That's the biggest entitlement you can possibly get. We're not thankful for that. You know that I start thanking my body after the ski accident? When I ended up in hospital, six months, 13, surgery, almost lost my leg. I was always grateful. I never thank my I never thank my heart to beat. I never said that, Hey, thank you, that I have hands, that I have a brain, that I can't comprehend. Never said that. I have to go through a tragic accident to like, Holy shit, I'm alive. I have legs, I have a I have a hand. I have everything else.

Was it the ski accident that created this transformation? Was that a catalyst?

You know what? You know what? It was the first obstacle that I missed that got send it to me out of, It's time to wake up. Get out of the bubble, the reality, the delusional reality from the outside world. That was the first, but I did not get the message. That was first was the skiing, then it was divorce. Then after divorce, was losing my kids for a while. That was like...

How do you lose your kids for all? They just decided not to call you or there was an issue at the moment?

I remember I have two older kids. What happened is, they remember when I never played the... Because remember, I was never present father. When I played the role, I wanted to do this, this. You got everything Everything. I was like, But I want to go to Daddy Father Dance. I'm like, Well, I don't do that. But all the fathers do. Well, do they live like us? No. I was like, Dad, I want to talk to you. I was like, I'm in the man cave. I just did 100 miles on the bike. I don't have time for that. My kids want me. They never have a message for me. They always have a, Mom is to raise you. I'm here to protect you and make sure that you have everything provided. I did my work. The kids' language love is not a love, it's time. But I never give them a time. When divorce happened and mama have all the dialog for 10, 15, 16 years, they were older, guess what? They listened to mom. They don't listen to that. Who are you now? You're going to own now, you, your father, where you were for the last 16, 18, 12 years over my life.

I own it. I deserve it because I was never present. But I didn't know how to be present with them Because I didn't know how to be present with myself. There was always something. They listened to the dialog that they've been listening. I was always in raising my kids on the back seat, not even on the driver's seat, on the back seat. Yeah, go to mom, go to mom, go to mom. You know what I mean? I just wrote the check.

Mom is the primary caretaker. There's not much we can do as fathers.

No, I have my kids now, seven, seven. It's like, you know what? Again, that's what the society wants us to believe. But what happened is we are the kids. Because what happened is we can spend time and be present with our kids, and we never are Because we're busy. You know that I was going... Nataka, I love you, but I'm going to say it. A year, six months ago, I was driving with my eldest daughter. She got a job in Mantek. I was driving to- Where's Mantec? Mantec, Long Island, right? Mantec. Okay. I'm like, Let me drive with you so I can go. I drive with you. I love it. We and I spent father-daughter time. She told me a story that she learned how to ride a bike, some trick. She remembered detail for detail that she came home. She was waiting for me to show me the trick. I got out of the car, out of the garage. I was on the phone. Brother, I have no idea who the fuck I was on the phone. I don't remember that shit at all. I was on the phone and she was waiting to show me the trick.

Finally, she has to go back. She has to go back It was a bedtime. She never did. She still remembered that. I have no idea who I was on the phone with, who was my client, if I make money or not. But she took this experience 16 years later and lived with her. My dad never had time. Everybody was more important than me. I don't even know. I don't even remember that. But she I'm just teaching. I'm preaching, I'm telling all the stuff. I'm going on the stages, I'm going on the podcast. Six months ago, I'm coming back. I have a podcast with some, I don't know. I was in my group with Dean and Tony, and my son texted me that there's a graduation, and everybody wants to write a letter for him for graduation. That just make sure that you guys write the siblings ride, the uncles and everybody to know my son because of a middle school graduation. When I got out of the podcast, it was like, I have like, I remember that. I have 300 text messages, and there was probably 20 for my kids. But I just scroll through it about this message.

I'm driving from Miami. I was on the stage. I'm driving to Miami with my best friend. My son caused me cry. I can't believe it. I can't believe it. I'm like, Wow, what happened? And he's crying. Dad, today, they was revealing the letters. Everybody got 10, 20 letters, 6 letters. I got one. I'm like, Fuck. I start crying like, Are you kidding me? Now, I have to process this for a month because now imagine, he's not important. You know how many uncles he has? He's got four siblings. He He got one letter. Just out of my house, he could get six. He got one. He trusted me. He sent me that text message because he knew I'm going to send to my brothers. Just for my brotherhood, he will get 100 letters. He got one because dad wasn't present. Dad scrolled through the text messages because he got now the 278 text messages. That's what we do. I could hurt my son for the rest of his life. I wasn't ever important. I wasn't ever enough. My dad never cared. My dad never loved me. Dude, I was in the podcast. I got 380 text messages.

I can give you A lot of excuses.

He doesn't care about those. No.

But that's what we do to ourselves. I'm getting goosebumps. That's what we do to ourselves, too. The loved one are waking us up, but we don't listen. Son, daughter, you don't get it. My third wife goes like, I don't care about the money. I just want you here because we have all the money. Shut up. When I'm going to learn the lesson, we want to do everything for everybody, nothing for ourselves. When we become a priority, when we become present with ourselves, then suddenly, even being a this, I'm present. I have a lot of just go right now. I can beat my head somewhere else and be here. I'm like, What the fuck this is going to finish? It It took me years to learn this, too. I'm on the high spectrum of ADHD. Me sitting here is like more than you can imagine.

Yeah, me too. Super high performers are always at the highest spectrum of ADHD.

It's a gift.

It's a gift. Matter of fact, I was talking to my son's teacher. By design, I tried Yadik to go to everything now for my kids because I'm like, I don't care about money anymore. I'm going to go to practices. I'm going to go to this.

But do you go when you're on the phone?

That's the problem.

See, you're not going there.

I'm still working- Can you imagine you were doing this part?

Because right now? I'll be on the phone. Can you imagine that? Or going to the dinner and have the phone and be on the phone. I can tell you, you go to dinner with me and you on the phone and we can make a $100 billion or billion deal. I can guarantee you the deal is not done. We're done. I'm not doing deal with you. You disrespect me, if the phone is more important, amen. You disrespect the server, the busboy, the anybody, we're done. We do it, so I'm there. Another story. I met my girl and my son went to the dentist, and I told him, that's a good one, and I told him, Son, after the dentist, we're going We're going to go rollerblading and we're going to go for breakfast and I'm going to take you to school. We went rollerblading, went for the breakfast. I just met this girl. It was five, six years ago. We've been dating six months. She asked him a question, Patrick, so what do you like to do with your father? I'm like, Fuck you. Watch this shit. Watch. He's going to say, We're going to all the Miami heat games.

We're on floor or the boxes. We go to the hockey game, to the Dolphins game, Denver Broncos game. We fly our jet, we're going skiing, and the same day we're going skiing and scuba diving like, Wow, tell her. I'm thinking in my head, You're not going to believe this shit. He goes, I like to watch TV with my dad. I'm like, Yeah, tell her more. Tell her more. Tell her all the stuff we do, the games. No, I like to watch TV with you, dad. I'm like, What? There must be something more. Ready? Yes, dad. I like to watch TV with you when you don't touch your phone. I can stop the TV and ask you what you see, and I can talk about the movie. Brother, my tear dropped.

Like, What the fuck?

What the fuck? Like, What do we do, brother? What the fuck do we do? We do this shit unconsciously, but we do it with ourselves, too.

It's a road awakening for me, personally. That's what your kids want. It's like that undivided attention.

That's it.

Yeah. And mastering that is so hard.

What are you feeling now? Because I see your body's doing nuts right now. This is your podcast. I know, brother. I know. By the way, I make people cry on my podcast.

Me too. It's always emotional, but it's like, I can just hear my son's voice saying that to me. It's like, Dad, get off your phone. My five-year-old telling me that. I could see him at football. Did you see me pull the flag? I'm on the phone, but I saw him pull the flag. Gave him a thumbs up. I could see the disappointment. It sucks.

Remember, we're all guilty. The devil give us bribes a little bit this, this, this, and Then we're just in it and we're in the game. Remember, they're going to raise the kid. I'm a father of five. Listen, consciously, unconsciously, my parents, my teachers hurt me. They didn't know. They programmed me the way they were programmed by the pain, by lack of knowledge, by lack of wisdom, lack of awareness. I did the same thing. Now I'm speaking to wake the people up that we have everything within us and we need to be present. We got to connect with our self or we got to connect with our kids. There is less suicides. People are happier. People don't look for the instant gratification. Because They're going to model exactly what you do. I read 12 books a week. What happened, I was always reading the books on audiobook so they can... My friend told me a few years ago, I was like, Dude, you read so much. Like, Dude, your kids read, right? I'm like, No. He goes, You read so much. I'm like, Oh, no, I don't read the audiobook. I don't have time for that.

I like the audiobook. He goes, So how does your kid know? Your kids think that you on the phone all the time doing business or scrolling or social media or something. I'm like, What the hell? I start reading. Now my kids start putting books, start going to... My daughter, 13, went to like a... Barnes & Nobles buying books. I was like, Wow. I did not tell them. I don't eat sugar for two years. Don't eat sugar. Don't eat ice cream. It's bad for you, brother. But yet I'm eating sugar. My son just start cutting 17 pounds just cutting sugar. I cannot tell the kids, Don't watch TV. You watch TV. Don't watch the phone. And then, Do you watch? They watch.

Yeah.

They see everything. But I work. Look at the way you live. Shut the fuck up. Don't complain. They don't care about any of this shit. Seriously. They better be with me at the economy class in the last roll of the season on my private jet. That's what I care. That's what I want. Tadla kids don't wait in line. They do now. I met my girl. We're flying to Poland. We're in the first-class line. I'm like, No, come here. This is online. This is like, I'll pay $6,000 for the ticket to go to Europe. He goes like, No, I'm over there with the economy. I'm like, No, this is our line right here. I pay for it. This is like, this is the... And she goes, We're still going to the same place. We're still getting on the one plane. I'm like, What the hell is wrong with you? We're entitled to all this stuff.

So now with your kids, you're present, no phone.

Brother, I'm still screwing this up. We just took before the podcast. It's like, you got to do better 1% every day. You will screw up. I just grew up a few months ago with the freaking with the letter. I screw up all the time. But catching and knowing and having the awareness, I want to be present. I'm trying to do everything. I'm trying to make up the time that I lost. But the problem is we cannot change the past. We can only change the future. Actually, the moment is now. I'm trying. But it's not in my subconscious mind to sit, be present, and talk to the kids. I have to learn this stuff. It's uncomfortable. I don't know how to ask questions even. How was your day? I don't even know that. I was never present. I have to learn. I have to read books. I have to listen to podcast. I have to listen to social media of parenting. I'm learning. We learn about stuff about business. You know what I mean?

This is more important than business.

Believe me, and I can guarantee you who anybody's listening to right now, when you connect with yourself and you become present and you really figure out that your inner world truly, truly, in few years, create your outer world, your business, the abundance will come. You are loved, you are abundant, and you got everything you need within you. Believe me, your outer world will change. You will get to the plane, you will get to another house, you will get to the beach house, the ski house, whatever you want, the European house, European, everything will get there. But take your time. Slower is better. We are on the journey, and the journey, there's no destination. It's who we become on the journey. That's how we have all the hardships. For me, It was the ski trip. For me, ski accident. To me, it was the divorce first, second, third. For me, it was the kids. You know what I mean? Financial struggles. It was. Was it just the lessons? But it's nice to learn from those lessons. But we are programmed by our parents. We got to reprogram ourselves. You know how nice it is to program yourself the way who you want to be?

That's what your parents told you to be. I love my parents. My parents are still alive, the '85, '82. They have no idea what they want to be to make them happy. They still don't know. They're going to die like that. We are the generational changers.

We have the resources to figure out how to improve.

And program yourself from inside out. Who do you truly want to be and who you truly are. It's not going to take a month or year. It's a journey, brother. But you don't want to ask people, who are you? The first thing, I'm an entrepreneur. I'm a father. I'm a boss. I'm the husband. People give you all the titles. What? The identity. Who truly you are. My question, who is Yadek? It keep changing. I keep evolving and I keep finding who I am. But you're not going to hear me, I'm the father, I'm an entrepreneur, I'm a real estate guru. I'm a little Polish guy trying to figure out life. That I want to share with the world so they don't freaking stop killing themselves and go through depression or through the burnouts. The burnout is a bullshit story. We're just chasing something that we never will chase.

Got a couple of last questions. This one's about raising your kids. Because you came dead broke from Poland and you built an empire, a real estate empire. How are you instilling that same level of grit, that mindset into your kids to really work hard to accomplish the same lifestyle? Because they've been handed everything, flying on private jets, sitting on the floor seats of the Miami. How do you instill hustle into kids that are given a true silver spoon? I mean, a silver spoon is not even... It's an understatement.

That's a good question, actually. I've been asked the question a lot. The question comes a lot around very wealthy families a lot at the dinner tables when we sit down and talk. The answer is one. We got to teach them. They're not going to have the grit. They're not going to have the hunger. They're not. They don't need to. They need to have the emotional intelligence to be able to use all the resources that we have. We give it to them. That's hard. Not the IQ, not the BQ, business intelligence, not the technology, the TQ, the EQ, the emotional intelligence, being able to use all the resources and all the knowledge that you, my parents, my grandparents, because there are so many families, I follow so many families, they're wealthier from generation to generation. That's what they do. That's what we got to implement. Bring the awareness. Yeah.

Like, Trump was given $100 million to start.

But so why? Yeah, but we can do this. But then he took it and took it to the next level.

Yeah. And then how his younger and his boys now, Eric Trump He came a billionaire on his own, started.

It is emotional intelligence.

He's doing a great job teaching him.

Exactly. Being able. It's like, what? You cannot just not give it to them. You got to give it to them. You You spoil them. But you got to teach them how to use it. When you're not present, you cannot do it. You can use, you can do it. Your kids will not start... My kids are not suddenly not going to start listening because the father said so.

Couple of last questions. This is a goal question. What's a personal goal that you have for yourself? A family goal that you have for your family? I don't even know if you have any business goals, but we'll throw that in there, too.

My personal goal is reach 8 billion people in this world to help them to find themselves, find a purpose of fulfillment and happy life, to get out of the devices and the algorithm for the instant gratification and quick dopamine hits. So reach people to Enjoy the journey, not the destination, and the person they become on the journey. That's my personal. I want to reach 8 billion people. Am I delusional? Maybe I am, but that's my goal. It works me up every single morning. Why does it go for my family? Definitely rely them, help them make sure that my kids truly know who they are, not not what the father wants them, not what the mother wants them, not what the society wants them to do what they truly, truly want, and find a purpose of fulfillment in life and happiness. For business, I want to change my culture of my companies. It's very hard in business be not transactional, but just change the culture. My emphasis will be just whatever I'm teaching, I'm preaching, when I'm going on the stages, my books, it just change the culture of my company and be more present and spend more time with them because they have access to me.

One last question. When you're in front of the curly gates, what do you think God's going to tell you?

You did pretty good during your life. You know what? It's funny. I talked about it two days ago to my friend. I think there our life is preparing us for afterlife. You better go and surf. Whatever you're going through, hard or good, go share it with some people because people need to hear your story. I think that's the biggest thing that I'm preparing for my afterlife. But I'm going to still live another 70 years, brother. I'm obsessed if it comes to my health and what I put in. Sorry, I'm completely obsessed with that.

We're all biohacking. We're all cutting-I'm huge on biohacking.

I'm huge on the soulhacking. I want to figure out more who truly, truly I am and the longevity. It's huge. But I also go deep in the spirituality, my soul, my spirit, my heart, my love, faith with God, faith with who we truly are. That's my goal.

You look like you're going to live another 70 years.

Oh, hell, yeah. Watch me. I have more energy right now being 53 than I was 16 or 20.

I'm in the best shape and also the most energetic I've ever been myself. Now, I'm 44. So I get it.

I'm telling you that globally, financially, we are connected. The same thing with all the wisdom, education and technology and the biohacking. Now, there's a guy from India. We're all sharing the wisdom right now. We have access. We don't need a doctor, we don't need an attorney, we don't need anybody anymore. We can access it from everywhere else. We can live better A quality life. I tell people, when you fix your inner world and you freaking truly happy, suddenly you only see happiness outside. I'm telling you, your wife is hotter, you have a better sex, your partner, your kids are smarter, because suddenly when you truly only have love and positivity and ecstasy in you, you only see the good stuff. Suddenly, you don't see the stuff. That would be my biggest goal.

Yarek, this has been one of my favorite podcast. This is-Thank you, brother. Lots of profound wisdom. You've been very, very inspirational, motivational. It's a true testament that who cares about money? I know, fortunately, money came as a result or byproduct of our efforts, but it's our inner self that's the most important. You really inspired me to really reflect more. And despite the fact that there's anybody listening, if you touch one soul, the show is worth it. I'm sure you're going to touch a lot of souls.

Thank you, brother.

God bless you. I hope you hit all of your goals. And may there be more fruit in the relationship and growth with your children and all the people. And I hope you touch 8, 10, 20 billion people because I know that you're going to live another 100 years. There you go. You got a lot of time.

We have time. And that's the Danny, whoever listens right now, we do have lots of time. Nothing has to happen now. Why are you supposed to be a lot farther than this in life? No, you're supposed to be exactly where you are. You know what I mean? Stop with the regret. Forgiving yourself is the biggest freaking gift. It's not easy to forgive yourself. Because I should have, I would have. Shut up. We are here today with exactly what we're supposed to be. That's it.

Jarek, people want to connect with you. How do they find you?

Find me on Instagram, YouTube. Instagram channel is the best one. Tadla Jarek. My first and my last time, we're going to put a link. And YouTube, all my social media. When you put my name, you will find me.

Tadla Yarek. Yarek is J. J. J-a-r-e-k.

J-a-r-e-k.

Thank you, Tadla. Thank you, Jarek. It's been a pleasure to have you on the show. It's been an absolute blessing. I'm inspired. I'm pumped God bless you. Thank you for jumping on coffee for Closers. Thank you. Yarek Tadla. Make sure you connect with him, guys. This guy is going to change the world. God bless.

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