Transcript of Pressure won't change anyone | Mel Robbins #Shorts

Wishing somebody would take better care of themselves is a beautiful thing. Wishing your adult child would be more motivated or see the potential that you see is a beautiful thing. But the problem isn't wanting more for somebody. The problem is how we're going about it. When you wish someone would change, it translates to pressure. What does pressure create? It doesn't create motivation, it creates resistance to change. So your pressure, your desire, your opinion, your judgment, even your well-intentioned gifts to people. Here's a tutor, here's running shoes, here's this, here's that. It actually creates the standoff that you're trying to end. People only change when they feel ready to change. You need to let people You need to let people change when they're ready. You need to let people learn from life. You need to let people be who they are. You need to let people make their own mistakes. Well, of course, because the greatest teacher in life is life. The greatest teacher in terms of motivating intrinsic motivation to change is actual pain. Because what is the saying in addiction and sobriety? People get sober when being drunk is harder than facing the things that you're running from.