Transcript of "My Life WAS Normal" — Daughter Reveals Debra Newton's Lies

Hey, everyone. Welcome to Crimly Obsessed. I'm Anne Emerson. How did police find Deborah Newton?

Uh-oh, they're coming for you, Sharon.

They don't want me. She's been wanted since the '80s for kidnapping her daughter, Michelle. In fact, she was on the FBI's top eight most wanted list for parental kidnapping. It's a question you all been asking since my first interview with Michelle back in December. She couldn't share it with me back then because of the investigation. You got to hold on to your seats for this one because she's unraveling her mother's 40 plus years of lies. But before we get into that, a little background for those who don't know this story. Just imagine finding out at 46 that you're not who you thought you are. There's police at your door asking for your DNA, and your mom is sitting in jail. Her arrest is going viral while your head is spinning. Then you meet your real dad, and he smells just like you. And you find out he's been looking for you for 42 years. Mind blown. Like and subscribe so you don't miss any interviews like this one. And you can catch up with interviews from Michelle and two of her three dads.

Michelle, it's so good to see you again. I really am grateful that you're letting us in on this amazing part of your life. You are a road warrior at this point.

Yeah. I feel like I'm driving all the time. Back and forth in Kentucky, and it's constant, but it's good. It's for a good reason. So I'm grateful for the ability that I can just pick up and go and do what I need to do. Yeah.

Well, and also you've got so much to look to, even though it's a difficult time, you got so much to look forward to because so many people are part of your life now.

Yeah. It's been a roller coaster, but in a good way. Every time I go down to Kentucky, I'm meeting different people or spending more time or and deep diving into just stories and pictures in the past. And it's been a really wonderful thing.

The piece that we heard from your dad about the facial recognition, you can only imagine how my ear just went like this, and I was like, Wait, what?

I was told it was a woman that actually got into facial recognition as a hobby, and she liked it so much that she went out and bought her own computers and stuff and actually opened us business. She works looking for criminals and missing and exploited children. If she gets a match, she goes to whoever that might be. But she's come across the photos that we had sent out 47 years ago and actually got a hit on her mom, and they were pretty certain at that time that it was her, and that's when they asked for the DNA. She turned it over to the proper authorities, and they went from there.

This is unbelievable.

Yeah. I mean, for me, when I look at the facial recognition and some of those drawings and sketches that were done, even the age progression for myself, it seems to resemble my mom more, and I'm I'm wondering if that was what was seen, but AI has come so far. I've been playing around with some of those tools myself right now as I'm deep diving into some of the other parts of this story that haven't been really released yet and trying to dig in on my own. So the tools and The tools and the software is crazy. The accuracy of some of it is really impressive. Again, I haven't seen any of the photos that this anonymous tipster had come up with, but it seems to have worked.

Michelle, Where we dropped off our conversation last, there was a lot to look forward to for you, for hopefully for your mom to come to terms with what had happened. And then the interrogation video drops.

We have a whole episode about Deborah Newton's interrogation video, and she makes some big accusations about Michelle's father, Joe.

Here's just a bit of what she said. Was there any other type of domestic abuse or anything like that? Anything else going on? Anything physical? Oh, yeah. What all happened?

Oh, he would hurt me. He would hit me. He would hurt me. He would force me. But most of all, it was the threat.

It really puts all of this into perspective.

That wasn't what you were expecting, was it?

No, it was very raw and hard to watch, and then just invasive. There was a lot stuff that was in there, even just my own personal information that I really did not expect to just be dropped out there. Watching the story and just the whole thing play out and then being completely different than what I was told. Just several weeks before from her. There's a lot of contradictions there. I'm still trying to work through all that.

Yeah, it was like, all of a sudden, what should have been a moment of truth and reconciliation became mired in a false narrative.

Yeah. I'm still sorting through that. It's hard to even address. I think there's a lot of stuff that was said there that's just muddled or confused, or as my dad referenced, maybe something that she was told to say. It's hard to even watch it or adjust it.

But you're convinced that that was just nonsense, basically, that part of it?

I don't want to say nonsense. I think there's so much in that with her and the things that I have seen and heard from her over my entire lifetime that just they don't make sense. There's so many lies. Someone else had reached out to me at one point, very early on, who had been through a very similar situation, almost 40 years of missing, had been taken by a parent. Some of the advice she gave to me was to take nothing as truth. It's almost like sorting through an entire beach of sand, and you're taking one grain at a time and examining it, which one is real, which one's not. I feel like that's where I'm at. Everything that I'm doing right now is just trying to be in the moment. I told you last time we talked, I am very factual. So if I can see proof, if I can look at an FBI document or a testimony or a receipt of something that actually happened, and I can say, yes, this is valid, then I can put that in my little pile of truth. Everything else, I have to leave over here right now and just let it hang out.

You know who would love to talk to? I don't know if you've seen her on my show, but Dr. Laura Petler. She's got a stoplight. She's got a green, yellow, red stoplight. Everything green is good to go, it's a fact. Yellow is the, I don't know, and the red is the, yeah, this isn't true. Let's throw it out. When you were I was saying that I was like, you are a stoplight person. You're going to have these... You are. You're very methodical from what I've already- It's more yellow.

That's the challenge. There's a lot of yellow. There's the person that I have grown up with. There is the instant reaction when all this happened. The week that this happened. I mean, and you're talking about my entire world just flipping upside down three times, really.

Or it is when the interrogation happened. Is that what you're saying?

No, just even when I found this out. And everyone's asking, How do you feel? And I'm like, Well, I'm over the moon. I found my dad. I found my family. I'm terrified for my mom. You have a lot of emotions going on, and everyone's like, Oh, how was your life? My life was normal. As you step out of this, and as you start really processing, and you start thinking through things and really examining details and facts, you start to question what really is normal? What really was what I thought was normal? What was truth? What was lies? So now it's just this whole big spider web, hornets nest, whatever you want to call it, of just facts, details, lies, myths. I've got to sort it all out. I'm trying to be very hesitant about what I say, especially regarding her own testimony or her own interrogation video. I wouldn't want to sit here and say, Well, all of this is a lie. I just know that there's a lot that doesn't align with what was told to me personally from her. That part of it, I have to reconcile. That's going to It just take time.

I can't do that process without her. Unfortunately, we have not been speaking, so that's just going to time.

Would you be comfortable to tell me why you stopped talking?

There is no why. It's a matter of someone picking up the phone and actually making the effort. There's only so many times I'm going to continue to do that until that communication just stops. It's not my job to chase her right now. I feel like at this point, if she wants to talk, she'll make that effort and she'll talk.

Do you think she knows what the truth is? Yes and no. That complicated.

It is that complicated, yeah.

Do you think you're going to get to the truth, Michelle?

I think I will find it through my own resources or as much of it as I can. Whether that is with her assistance or not is truly in her court. It's up to her. But I'm relentless, so I will dig until I find what I think I need to find. Again, there's so much of this, I'm dancing around because we're still at a place where I can't in-depth talk about some of the pieces that my dad had alluded to. It's fine. Yeah. And hopefully, again, she'll open up and talk about that part truthfully when she's ready.

Michelle, has your feelings towards your mom changed?

Not really. I forgive my mom, right? And I love my mom. There's no change there. She's my mother. You can't replace that. You get that dynamic, that one person that brought you into this world. There is a million more questions than I had two, three months ago when this started. And I thought it would be the other way around, but the longer I sit with it, the harder it is to navigate some of the anger, some of the issues that come up, some of just the lie. I mean, as a mom myself, there's so many places where I try to put myself in her shoes. And for the longest time growing up, because of the stories I was told, it was easy enough for me to say, Okay, I'm going to put my curiosity on the back burner. And some of the memories that I had that I thought were of my dad that really weren't of my dad. I think that piece of it is, again, it's just sorting the grains of sand right now. I have good days and bad. There's a lot of sadness. There's a lot of sadness. I can't tell you there's not a single day where I'm not sitting somewhere in privacy of my home crying about it.

There's a lot of good. I have this amazing family. My dad is phenomenal. His wife, who I call Mama Beth, she's sitting over here, out in the side, but she's been my rock. There's days where I go off the handle and I'm angry. And both of them are the first ones to tell me, Calm down, that's your mama.

Do you want her to come into the shot? Does she want to be in the shot right now?

She says she didn't do her hair, but she's beautiful Come on over here. Come just for a sec. Come here. Come here. Come here. Heal me. No.

This is such a family story. I just feel like I want to see... If I hear somebody sniffling off in the corner, is this not the best?

This woman has the biggest heart, and I will tell you that my dad would not be sitting here if it wasn't for her, bullying him into the hard train is planned, and then taking care of him and just making sure that he's been healthy. I mean, they've been together for almost 15 years. Fifteen years. Yeah. And she just got a heart of gold. She's a good person, really good person.

Yeah, I can see that. And what I also see is...

You are killing me.

I see a family that's starting to find ways to communicate and to share stories. But there's so much that has to be processed. You have to let the emotions just wave over you.

Yeah. And it doesn't stop. I mean, I'll have days where I'm really great, and then I'll have days where I'm mid-conversation with a customer about something that has nothing to do with any of this. I'm at work, and I'm bursting into tears for no good reason at all. It's this weird little cycle that just goes around the ground. And I'll tell you, this family as a whole, I have yet to have anybody who said anything negative. My aunt, last I saw her, she sat down and she said, You know, one of the hardest things is that the door would still have been open for your mom. Even now, after all this time, the door would have been open. And it's the same for her family, her sister, my cousin's. Everyone has said, Let's just move on. Let's I forgive. There's a place for her here. We would like her to be part of our life. I've told her this over and over. I can't force a fence to get mended. All I could do is sit here and try to be a bridge, but I feel like I'm being shut out right now. It's just going to take time, and she needs time, too.

She's got her own things to process and go through. I can't even imagine what she's feeling and what she's handling. We had talked about some of it, but I think there's also a lot of fear. There's judgment. It's a lot. I don't want her to be floating out there in the ocean by herself. I want to be there, but I can't force her in. At this point, it's her to want to talk or to come back into the situation.

Beth, as you've been watching all this unfold, just give me your... What did you think when you found out that Michelle had been found?

I Joe had called me. I was at work. I'm a nurse. I was at work and sitting in my desk. He called and he said, They found her. I said, What? He said, They found Cheli. Well, I just bawled and the girl sitting behind me at the desk, she said, Are you okay? I'm like, No. I said, After 43 years, they found Shelle. I just wanted to hug him. Of course, I was at work. He called me. But it was one of the greatest days to watch your husband feel whole again because a piece of him was missing. It was just amazing.

She's all emotional, I love her.

She's big hearts all over the place. I got all these big hearts around me. It's unbelievable.

Yeah.

I mean, I don't see... This is the thing about this story that just kills me, is that I don't see the anger. I know there are moments where both of you all just want to get mad, but I don't see that. What I see is gratitude and love, overwhelmingly larger than any anger that there could be.

I don't know her mother. I've never met her mother, never, but I don't hate her. I mean, I told Shelle, I said, I would never, ever say anything to you to disrespect your mother. She is your mother. I think in her mind, I mean, she did what she did. I don't know.

I don't understand it.

She is She is Shelle's mother. I don't hate her.

No.

The truth is still unraveling, right? We still got to figure out what the hell happened. But I did want to ask. Michelle, the charges are very serious against your mom, against Deborah. They're very serious. We're looking at a felony. As your dad explains so well, this moved into a felony. We're looking at prison time if this doesn't get sorted out.

Am I right?

The charge in Kentucky, the felony charge, typically comes with a one to five-year sentence. However, the time frame is so far back. The details, a lot of the details have been lost or lost in translation. You've had really four generations of people working on this. They've gone through four or five detectives, four or five sets of prosecutors. I think at this point, there's so much that's removed. It's a very gray area. It's a very, very gray area. No one is over here saying that we want her to do time in jail. That's the last thing I think anybody wants. My dad said it quite beautifully. He really just wanted an apology and some retraction.

She can't give me back 43 years. She can't give her daughter back, but she could apologize. She could say she was sorry. She could do that.

I don't think that's a hard ask. I think that's actually pretty generous under the circumstances. Like he said, it's 43 years. You can't get it back. You mentioned about gratitude, but that's really all that I have room for at this point. I think for the whole family, the anger and the hate, although it does... The anger definitely pops up in moments where you just have these, I call them ouch moments, where it's like, Okay, well, there's something that he didn't get to be part of or I didn't get to be part of. At the same time, you watch all this stuff going on around the world and what people are going through and real issues, though, that people have, and I'm thinking, he's alive. I have this family that's loving and supportive. There's so much to be happy for that I can't stay in the anger. So it does come up, but you just sort through it and say, Okay, well, I'm going to move that to the side right now because it's not going to do any good. And then forgiveness is one of those things I've always said, forgiveness is peace you give yourself.

So that was an easy thing. It's not going to do me any good to sit here and be mad and hold on to it and be angry at her because for what? It doesn't fix anything or help anything. And she's my mom. So at the end of the day, that's always the person I would pick up the phone and call every day. Hey, something happened. I don't know how to work through this, or my kids did this. What would you have done? So that piece of my life, I'm going to mourn that until it comes back.

Michelle, you told me last time that you were going through your own personal nightmare of trying to sort out, is this going to affect you in a really, really straightforward way? Passport, credit card, Social Security, tax. Are you okay? Are you okay? Are you okay? Is the federal government cooperating with this total nightmare of identity?

There's not a lot of resources to go to in a situation like this, and it's a very gray area. Nobody seems to really know what to do with it. So I do have an advocate from the FBI who's been assigned. We're starting that process and working through. I've turned in my my multiple birth certificates. I've turned in my information and data and everything that I have. I'm sure it's going to pan out at some point, but it's going to be a very long and painful process. Even though it's not something that I did, it's something that I have to, unfortunately, take the time and work through and the expenses and work through. I'm sure at some point it all get fixed. But I've talked with some other folks who have been in, again, not the same situation, but somewhat similar You've got a social security number, which is mine, but it's not Michelle Newton's. So there's that. Michelle Newton doesn't have a social security number. I've got to merge it all together and work it out, figure out which identity be, who am I, which name am I going to use? So a lot to be unfolded, and I'm sure it's going to take a long time.

I guess you'll be at March 27th. That's our next...

I will. I will. I will not miss the date.

March 27th is the next big date for Deborah. As we're sitting here in early March, Deborah's out on bond, and her next court appearance is that March 27th date.

What do you want to get out of that?

Based on what I saw this last time around, it's really just the initial deciding what do we have to move forward and how do we move forward. So I would just love some direction in general. That would be great. Just to know at least what's happening next. I feel right now like it's just all floating in the wind, and you're unsure of what's happening from day to day. I'd like to know what the progression is going to be going forward, how long this is going to take.

If you could talk to your mama, if she watches this, let's say that, what would you like her to know?

That I love her, and I wish that she would just talk. That's it.

Talk to you?

Yeah. It's a very painful place to be in because I didn't ask for it. It's almost like a double down.

Let's hope that she watches us and it picks up the phone. Okay.

I hope so. I don't know. I feel like if you picked up and left everything once before, I don't know that I'm going to be any different. I hope so, but I don't know that that's going to be the case.

Yeah, there's some strange walls up, aren't there? The mind is a tricky place to live.

It is, and I think that you need help navigating that sometimes. That's all that I I really want to do is just be a resource and help her through it. Resources are out there to get that help. I've sent them to her.

We're going to leave it there for now, and we're going to stay with your story. I'm just so grateful that you all could take the time today. I know you have a big road trip ahead of you to go do some fun things, and I hope you have some quality time while you're there.

Police are still investigating this, and as we told you, Deborah is going back to court at the end of this month. These are federal charges. Please drop a comment below. I want to hear what you think about Joe's parental custody rights. That was a big issue for him back in the '80s and how that's changed. Do you think that what happened to Joe back then and his ability to find Michelle would be the same today? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Like and be sure to follow us at Crimly Obsessed for more conversations like this.